I’m going to share something I never have. Partly because the Chauvin trial itself is incredibly triggering, but mostly because of how triggering it is to see people defending him and Minneapolis Police everywhere I look.
I talked to a civil attorney once about suing Minneapolis Police. He got all the information I had before telling me that I was a liar, out to ruin a “good man’s” reputation. Clearly, they had a personal connection. The next morning, I started getting followed by police.
For months, I was followed. I got a few bogus tickets, but usually, they just followed me. I still remember how scared I was all the time. They sat outside my apartment. I spent money I didn’t have on Ubers to try to avoid them.
Once, I ran into a Minneapolis officer who I had never met. They told me to “stay safe out there” with a wink. Every time I saw one of them behind me, my hands would be shaking on my steering wheel because I was so scared of what they might do to me if I got pulled over.
I was able to stop it because after I came forward publicly about my rape case, I started to make connections with powerful people above their heads. I finally got up the nerve to ask one of those more important people for help, and the harassment stopped the next day.
I want to make sure to say that I was still enormously privileged. If I changed my name or moved cities, it would’ve stopped. The majority of people who are harmed by police are targeted because of their race, class, immigration status - things that don’t change in a new city.
So when I see these comments day in and day out about how these poor, innocent police officers are being falsely persecuted by the public, I’m so angry I can barely think. It’s racism, it’s ignorance, it’s the viewpoint of someone in a safe & bigoted little bubble.
If you have been protected all your life from police, I’m glad. But truly, I do not need to see your thoughts anymore unless you are understanding what life has been like for the many, many people who have NOT been so lucky.

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Minnesota, I know so many of you have been outraged by the recent Supreme Court ruling. I know you want to help make a difference. I need you to read this and act now, because unfortunately, the clock is ticking on this year’s legislative session.
Minnesota’s Supreme Court cannot fix this. Minnesota’s state legislature is responsible. The law has been backwards and terrible for many years, and a working group has been working on rewriting the statutes for the last two years.
HF 707/SF 1683 was introduced in 2021 to fix this problem. It would also outlaw sexual exploitation (for example, someone being coerced into sexual activity in exchange for housing, services, or food), which is another extremely important issue that has been ignored for years.
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The average person has no idea the lengths that most victims of abuse go to to hide the abuse from everyone. The reason you don’t see abuse isn’t because it isn’t happening - it’s because both the abuser and the victim are often heavily invested in hiding it.
It makes sense why an abuser would hide their behavior. But most people can’t wrap their minds around why victims cover for their abusers. First & most importantly: this is often someone that they love. Someone who loved was good to them once.
Calling your partner an abuser - to anyone - often feels like crossing a point of no return. And for many victims, the response is either:

1. Defending the abuser - “maybe you’re overreacting”, “I don’t know if I believe that”

2. “You need to leave”
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I asked twitter yesterday for resources on prison/police abolition that address sexual violence & domestic violence, and I’m going to share everything in a thread. These resources range from personal narratives to books to academic articles - it’s a wide range.
Survivors: if the mere idea of abolition (or analyzing our punishment for violence in general) makes you anxious, you do not need to grapple with this. It is not your responsibility to figure out how to heal the brokenness that has already heavily impacted you.
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I’ve been holding back from commenting on Title IX issues for the last couple years, because I am far from an expert. But today, I’m setting aside trying to be an expert and just talking about why, personally as a rape survivor, I’m seriously concerned about the new guidelines.
TW: sexual assault for a lot of this thread.

In 2014, I was raped. It happened in broad daylight during a tailgate party by a fellow student. It was extremely violent. When I ran onto the street, a fellow student told me I needed to go to the hospital. I called 911.
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In 2014, a serial rapist/fellow college student raped me. I don’t want to go into details (but feel free to google if you are curious). I escaped around 12 pm onto a street full of people. I was pretty incoherent, but someone told me to call 911.
I hadn’t necessarily had fun experiences with law enforcement before (which is maybe expected, given my teenage activities). But I never would’ve predicted that I would be treated badly as a crime victim. Almost as soon as I was in the back of the ambulance, things went sideways.
I was uncomfortable being alone with two men. I asked for a female officer, and was told no. I asked if my friends could come sit with me, and I was told no again. I said I should call my mom, and one officer told me “this is pretty embarrassing for you, you can call her later”
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I’ve seen a lot of talk about suicide this weekend, and a lot of “call a hotline”. Which is absolutely one good solution. But as someone who has been down this road many times myself, I know it’s not that simple. So here’s a thread for folks struggling with suicidal thoughts:
First off: wait. Press pause on whatever plan you’re making. Promise yourself each time that you have suicidal thoughts that you’ll wait at least 3 days (or a week, or a month, or a year - whatever feels manageable) before taking any action.
Ask yourself if your basic needs are met. Are you hungry? Have you been sleeping? Have you been drinking water? As silly as it will feel in the moment, those things can have a big impact on your mental health if other factors are already bringing you down.
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