For men reading this understand the the masculine grows through challenges whereas the feminine grows through praise.
This is why when we dare each other as men or call each other "chicken" it actually spurs us into action whereas with women, not so much.
Furthermore, the masculine energy always needs to be directed because its main purpose is to create order in chaos which is why men always like fixing things. We need problems to to solve in order for us to grow.
The bigger the problem, the more it builds the man who solves it.
The masculine also has a wider attention span than the feminine, whereas the feminine is more playful & creative. This is why men can watch a football game unmoved & women mostly need the fluctuating emotions to stay glued.
This is why women secretly love drama in relationships.
The reason men commit more suicide then women and the reason for this surge in gender based violence is because a man who is unhappy with himself is dangerous to himself & his environment.
This is because the masculine energy isn't being channelled.
Hard times create strong men.
Strong men create good times.
Good times create weak men.
Weak men create hard times.
When men focus more on pleasure than they do on challenges, society deteriorates. (Babylon & Rome is an example).
Background done so lets get into it.
1. The hard truth is this, the world demands that men be of use or shuns them. You're learning/growing for sometime but after a certain age, you're deadbeat.
Your appearance & value matters, so work on this.
There is no "just be yourself" when you are a loser. Improve!
2. Before you get coupled up permanently, make sure you have your mission in life secure. Mission is not your career, it is being self aware enough to have something you want to change/improve in society. Bringing chaos to order.
Adam had a mission first AND THEN EVE GAME.
Ladies, the next time you're on a date with a guy, ask him what his mission in life is more before you ask him about what he does. More often than not, he will not be able to tell you.
When a man lacks mission, he becomes frustrated & guess who he'll take it out on??? Yup.
3. A muscle grows through exposure to tension.
So too do you grow mentally by taking on new challenges & spiritually by exercising your faith (by doing things you are scared to do).
You must strive to be complete in all spheres, mind, & spirit.
No dad bods please. Go to gym!
4. A man must acquire knowledge of the world in order to form is own code and opinions about it.
Let go of the pride that thinks you know it all. This is why the isolation is important, Jesus and Mohammed in the desert.
You need to surround yourself with knowledge & absorb!
5. You need to constantly improve and get better.
A 100% improvement in yourself will translate into a 10% improvement in your environment.
You want your woman to be fit, you must start going to gym.
You want her to be better, you must be better, she'll reciprocate.
6. Play long terms games, this means that grant you autonomy & make use of the knowledge you acquire. Intelligence without direction is useless.
Build a business or be so good that your job grants you autonomy like Harvey Spector.
Basically be a fucken beast at what you do.
7. Stop aiming low because that's what you see & are used to.
Most men in the world are losers because very few evolve beyond what they're world demands from them.
Winners set their own course & bend reality to their will. Raise your standards to be Apex, otherwise you follow.
8. The worst kind of men are the ones who spend their lives moaning and bitching.
You find many on twitter. Avoid these types at all costs.
Drake said it: "Bench players talking like starters."
Be in the arena of life, the spectators get emotional & only make noise.
9 (bonus) for those who stayed.
The world wants you to lead but your attitude towards yourself must first improve.
Train your decision making faculty by being more decisive. Women despise men who can't make decisions.
Improve your world.
I did a video further explaining some of the things I mentioned here, see below & enjoy. I also went into the male and female archetypes.
Enjoy:
Thanks for tuning in, go forth wnd win!! My plugs:
Before we get into it I just want to say that this is a collection of my lessons/mistakes & years experiences.
This is not to be used as a copy & paste, but more of a guideline & game that you must contextualize for your situation.
Extract the principles in the text.
Cool!
1. This is key. The first step is accepting that you're going to be in this for the long haul. This is why it doesn't help selling fads unless finding new fads is your strategy.
Know alot about the market but more importantly the [Psychology] of how people in it consume.
1. You genuinely have to have things that you're interested in enough to be curious to learn more about. Doesn't matter what it is.
Curiosity did NOT kill the cat. Another societal lie designed to keep you down.
2. Once you're aware of your interests, you have to choose one in an area where you know the world needs it or will need it. And go all the way fucken in.
Before you start make sure you've emotionally & mentally invested what it's going to take to endure the learning.
The longer you take to build the life you want, the harder it becomes to do so because as you get older:
1. Your risk appetite decreases 2. The mental programming that has been sabotaging you is reinforced 3. You have less friends who you fear losing so you can rock the boat
It also has to be said that the older you get, the more expensive it is to belong to your peer groups.
For the most part if you aren't talking about marriage, kids, holidays & houses; you automatically will get segregated.
Scary how evident this is.
In fact if you have traded most of your friends in your 20s for more progressive friends who aren't afraid to challenge the order of things, chances are you will never develop your own rhythm on things.
Nature only gives man so long in order to free himself.