Thread by @erikaheidewald

same - i like people messaging me, i like writing back, but my energy to do so is very sporadic. i’m also super forgetful & i get a lot of DMs and i can lose track so i’m really never upset by people DMing again to remind me. i need reminders for everything in life, DMs included

https://twitter.com/roryreckons/status/1379665645818716165

only time i will purposefully not write you back if we are people who generally get along (i don’t write back to shitty people being shitty lol) is if you take me not writing you back quickly enough personally and get upset at me. i can’t handle that at all.

i know lots of people have RSD but i am not the one who traumatized that into you so you may not take it out on me. people taking things i do personally and getting mad at me is the source of much of the trauma of my life so it’s a big boundary for me.

it’s not even necessarily punitive or that i’m mad at you bc i know nobody chooses to have RSD but if someone is going to regularly get their feelings hurt by me just being me, we can’t be friends. it’s not a good idea for either party. it’s traumatic for me, as well.