No, I will not be party to the lie that "a man stays where he finds peace". A man must be able to realize peace first before looking for it in a woman. A man stays where he wants to stay. He is more likely to stay for buttocks and a pretty face than he is for "peace".
How many girlfriends a man has, is not exactly my concern. People commit adultery for variety reasons. The absence of peace is no excuse really because if that "peacelessness" was compromising them, they would leave for good. It's just the case of a hyena wanting all really.
I am all about honesty, & will always be. There is nothing you can do to keep someone who doesn't want to be kept. You can bend from here to Paris, you can stand on your head, brush your teeth with a broom, & go for 10 buttock enhancing surgeries, it cannot work sustainably.
The decision to stay or leave is not exactly tied to your partner's actions but individual perception. We've seen men & women stay with abusive partners over perceived passion. More often than not, it is in your mind & heart, not the actions of the other party.
I advocate for equity, a collective sense of purpose & commitment. For as long as you are giving those, what you get is no longer your problem but theirs. Don't go twisting your neck to keep a man, or woman, that doesn't want to be kept. Go mop the ocean instead.
This is one of the reasons I don't entertain women who don't have a sense of direction/identity. The "I am bored" clique. They come imposing the responsibility of self-discovery on you. Just like a man with no sense of identity/purpose imposes that responsibility on their partner
You want peace? Bring peace. You want entertainment? Be entertaining. You want humane treatment? Be humane. I am an advocate of defined domestic functions, for reasons rooted in my experiences & nurture, but peace is unisexual. "Peacelessness" is no justification for promiscuity.
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