Thread by @Jaykaduru

A lot of people who are just starting out believe in the need to get a mentor but don’t know how to go about it.

A mentor is a very important part of your life.

We always focus on the “Official” ones, I want to tell about the ‘Unofficial’ today.

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There is a widespread belief that you need to have massive value before a mentor picks you to work with you.

This is true however, it’s also crippling especially for people who are just starting out.

You know you need someone to guide you but you don’t want to act on it

cause you know that this person knows what more than you and is currently at a level you want to get so what can you possibly offer in return?

I felt this way for a long time.

I’ll be talking about this in 2 parts but I want to talk about Unofficial Mentors.

These are people who love you and give you advice.

They are important to you but because there was never an official ask, (i.e will you ….) you don’t think they are your mentors.

I’ve had women like this.
2 of them.

These women loved me.
I don’t know why and I still can’t see why.

Before I was able to notice their impact in my life, I was always worried that my life would take a downturn because I didn’t have a mentor.

I was reading on how to find one, how to ask about one, courage to approach etc but my eyes didn’t see the two I had right in front of me.

My first Unofficial Mentor, I call her PNK.
We met in 2013/2014

When the Bible said
“Therefore now there is no condemnation” they had her in mind.

Even when I felt the dirtiest, wrongest and lowest, she never judged me.

She’ll chastise me but the love from her was enough to heal and make me feel better.

She’ll always say she wishes I can see myself and all the value I have.

I have seen some of it.

I tend to hide when I mess up but I don’t do that with her.

Perfect Love casts out fear.

I had this Gem of a woman I still didn’t see it or think a lot about it.

This was our conversation today and she’s still telling me things I can’t believe I’ll ever do or am capable of doing.

My second unofficial Mentor, I “Law of Attraction”ed her into my life.

She was always there.

Showed me intense and massive love. Thought me a lot of things too but I did a few things to mess that relationship up and I regretted it for a long time.

She would tell me in 2019
“Joy, you can sell course over N10k but I didn’t see it happening.

2019, I sold a course at N150k

Notice how I’m focused on the things I did not see, I’m going somewhere, stay with me😊

I know she still loves me but me being me, my response to shame is usually flight.

I’m working on fixing this.

I’ve learned to stop running.
Isaiah 1 vs 18

What’s the point of this:
Recognise them.
The ones always there for you.

The ones who do things for you and tell you things that you should pay for.

Those are mentors.

Don’t be so caught up in buzzwords and the hype of picking a popular person that you fail to see what’s in front of you.

Lastly, you may not see the value you have at the moment and what you can add to their lives at the moment.

This is perfectly fine.
You don’t have to.

That’s why they are mentors. They see what you cannot see.

I’ll talk about official mentors in a bit but before then, I pray God opens your eyes to see the value of what you have, so you don’t lose it.

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