Thread by @sheilagregoire

A dad makes a video telling his girls that rather than wear shorts they should wear turtlenecks because “modest is hottest.”

This is wrong on so many levels.

https://twitter.com/matthew_west/status/1405908415772348421

Our survey of 20,000 women found that hearing the message “all men struggle with lust; it’s every man’s battle”—even if you don’t believe it—lowers marital satisfaction, trust in your future spouse, and arousal levels during sex.

When you are taught this message as a teen, even BEFORE you meet your future husband, your marriage and sex life will be worse.

Our girls deserve better.

And teaching girls that they are the gatekeepers for boys’ sins?

More bad repercussions. It makes girls hyper-vigilant, so they are less likely to be able to relax once they’re married and enjoy sex. They’re more likely to have sex only because they feel like they have to.

As we share in The Great Sex Rescue, let’s reframe this message like this:

“Many PEOPLE struggle with lust; often boys more than girls, but girls as well. But the solution to lust lies in your own heart. It’s to learn to treat others as whole people, made in the image of God."

We can do better than “modest is hottest.” We can do better than “don’t be a stumbling block to boys.” We can do better than “your body is dangerous.”

We can say, You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You deserve to be treated that way.

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PS: One more thing. Here’s what our survey found happens to women’s sex lives if they believe “all men struggle with lust; it’s every man’s battle.”

When you spread this message, this is what you’re doing to women.

From The Great Sex Rescue!
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