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A dad makes a video telling his girls that rather than wear shorts they should wear turtlenecks because “modest is hottest.”
This is wrong on so many levels.
This is wrong on so many levels.
Our survey of 20,000 women found that hearing the message “all men struggle with lust; it’s every man’s battle”—even if you don’t believe it—lowers marital satisfaction, trust in your future spouse, and arousal levels during sex.
When you are taught this message as a teen, even BEFORE you meet your future husband, your marriage and sex life will be worse.
Our girls deserve better.
And teaching girls that they are the gatekeepers for boys’ sins?
Our girls deserve better.
And teaching girls that they are the gatekeepers for boys’ sins?
My thoughts on the Southern Baptist Convention votes:
The gatekeepers are losing control. And that's a very, very good thing that we're seeing across evangelicalism.
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The gatekeepers are losing control. And that's a very, very good thing that we're seeing across evangelicalism.
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Leading up to the convention, I was discouraged. From what I was seeing on Twitter, @albertmohler was the frontrunner, & was considered "almost moderate", despite the fact that he tweeted approvingly about a slaveholder's view on women's subordination on Mother's Day.
I saw SBC bigwigs beat up abuse survivors on a daily basis. It looked hopeless.
I wasn't expecting an overwhelming vote investigate the enabling & covering for sexual abuse.
I wasn't expecting the most moderate candidate to win (though how moderate remains to be seen).
I wasn't expecting an overwhelming vote investigate the enabling & covering for sexual abuse.
I wasn't expecting the most moderate candidate to win (though how moderate remains to be seen).
Now that Josh Duggar has been indicted on possession of Child Sexual Abuse Materials (child porn), some depicting toddlers, we must confront the sexualization of children in evangelicalism.
Let's start with teenagers, and go all the way down to toddlers.
Let's start with teenagers, and go all the way down to toddlers.
Shaunti Feldhahn, in For Young Women Only, tells girls "82% of boys feel little ability and little responsibility to stop the sexual progression." Telling girls that boys have "little ability" to stop legitimizes date rape and puts the blame at the girl's feet.
Furthermore, in a post to teenage girls, she warns that their date's dad will be tempted to "visually take in, linger on, and fantasize about all the details of this great body he's seeing." Let that sink in. Teens are being told that it is normal for adult men to sexualize them.
Can we talk COMPLEMENTARIANISM? What happens to marriage when couples act out the commonly taught doctrine that husbands make the final decision in marriage?
After surveying 20,000 women, we now know!
A thread with fun stats stuff:
After surveying 20,000 women, we now know!
A thread with fun stats stuff:
Let's start with beliefs: 62.2% of Christian wives believe that a wife submitting to a husband's leadership is a way that she can love him. And 39.4% of wives believe that the husband should have decision-making power in the marriage.
And you know what? When women believe this, it doesn't affect their marriage. It's neutral--not good or bad.
UNLESS--and this is a big unless--they actually act it out.
You see, most people who believe this do not practice it.
UNLESS--and this is a big unless--they actually act it out.
You see, most people who believe this do not practice it.
So @markgungor said yesterday: "At it’s core, marriage is a sexual contract. Refusing sex to your partner is a violation of the contract."
In our recent survey of 20,000 Christian women, we found that his take on sexless marriages is completely off base. Here's how.
In our recent survey of 20,000 Christian women, we found that his take on sexless marriages is completely off base. Here's how.
When women (1) have high marital satisfaction; (2) frequently orgasm during intercourse; and (3) have husbands who don't use porn, marriages almost NEVER become sexless. Sexlessness is a SYMPTOM of a greater problem. Women don't suddenly up and decide to give up on sex one day.
Now there are many reasons why a marriage might become sexless. In this thread, I'm only going to address the most common scenario: She never orgasms; she feels distant from her husband; and she's one of the 16% of women who say their primary emotion after sex is "feeling used."
We're all bemoaning the celebrity Christian culture that led to the Ravi Zacharias & Carl Lentz (& so many more) sex & sexual abuse scandals.
But what if the problem is not just--or even mostly--celebrity culture?
What if it's the evangelical view of sex?
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But what if the problem is not just--or even mostly--celebrity culture?
What if it's the evangelical view of sex?
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Yes, celebrity culture gave these men (and so many others) more access to victims, and it gave them cover for what they were doing.
But it was not celebrity culture that taught these men to objectify women. Our evangelical culture did that all on its own.
But it was not celebrity culture that taught these men to objectify women. Our evangelical culture did that all on its own.
Take the Every Man's Battle series of books: Every Heart Restored says: "Because of male hardwiring, men don't naturally have that Christian view of sex."
EMB says: "We find another reason for the prevalence of sexual sin among men. We got there naturally--simply by being male."
EMB says: "We find another reason for the prevalence of sexual sin among men. We got there naturally--simply by being male."
Here’s my problem with the #TheWisdomPyramid : He says that books are higher than online resources.
But in our survey of bestselling evangelical resources for our upcoming book The Great Sex Rescue, it was the books that called women methadone for their husbands’ sex addictions.
But in our survey of bestselling evangelical resources for our upcoming book The Great Sex Rescue, it was the books that called women methadone for their husbands’ sex addictions.
It was books that said about sex, “if your husband is typical, he has a need you don’t have,” denying women’s sexuality (Love & Respect).
That book also said sex was about a husband’s “physical release”, rather than also about deep intimacy and knowing.
That book also said sex was about a husband’s “physical release”, rather than also about deep intimacy and knowing.
It was books that said that women had to give husbands oral sex & hand jobs during their periods & postpartum phase, because it was a difficult time “for him” (Sheet Music).
It was a book that called a rapist “equally unhappy” to his wife, his rape victim. (Act of Marriage).
It was a book that called a rapist “equally unhappy” to his wife, his rape victim. (Act of Marriage).
