Thread by @BABAJIDEEDGES

Dear expectant single lady, let start this pep talk with some of the reasons why it’s not a crime to HELP a man find you:

1.Some men are shy & unusually reserved, they need more receptivity from you to make that move.
2.Based on how flourishing & happy you live & appear..

..offline & online, some men ’ve silently concluded that you’re in a relationship.
3.The men that still genuinely believe & desire marriage are getting low by the day. You aren’t as visible to your prospective value-mate as much as think you are. In fairness to yourself, when..

..you spot a worthy man, move closer.

4.Many men have an exaggerated sense of economic status they believe they should establish before landing a wife but on the contrary, they didn’t know some women are willing to understand their process & help with the economic reality.

This is where I’m going. The world is fast moving from the conservative ways of doing things & meeting your husband isn’t also an exception. I will explain.
In the olden days, mostly, the man’s family / friends do the identification, recommendation, matchmaking & negotiation..

..before the real participants get involved. Some years back, the style got majorly shifted; it evolved that the man chases the woman aggressively until she’s emotionally satisfied & convinced to be his woman.
But in recent years, aggressive chasing is gradually leaving the..

..love scene & some deliberate women are meeting interested men halfway.

For adult ladies, out of all young men that are of marriageable age & stage out there, around 60% are not marriage material while some aren’t making marriage their priority anymore because they..

..are already enjoying the dividends of marriage without being married. Potential baby mamas, easy sexual partners, company with no marital commitment, domestic work volunteers are all immensely available for these men with money.

Gone at the days of our fathers & the older..

..generation whereby, an adult man’s priority of adulthood is majorly attached to marriage & building of family & most women believe in the same process but today, the priority is majorly about money for most men & for the women also but regardless of many women’s financial..

..priority, they always cleverly find a way to merge marriage & finance into one when seeking. Meaning, no matter how unworthy some women’s candidacy of marriage is, they mostly still desire it.
For the 40% left willing & hoping for marriage, the ones that aren’t married..

..are still going to be screened down by spec preference, incompatibility of value & personality, toxic traits, tribal differences, financial prowess, genotype & so on. Apparently, What many ladies have left to choose from is less than 20% of the men in the marriageable group.

For the marriageable 20% left, you now have to wait the old way. Why na?
As an introvert or a mid-social woman, do you know you can wait a whole year & the number of men that would approach you all year round won’t be up to 7? & those 7 might turn out not be your type. So, tell..

..me, why not identify & gravitate towards your type?
The growing issue I’ve noticed is, some ladies would rather pick from the bad eggs because they’re the ones approaching. You see why you’ve to take the bull by the horn? Amplify chances; Join a dating page, deliberately..

..go out more, send that DM, shoot friendship shot to your type of man? Let’s be candid, the structure is to men’s advantage, it’s time you get involved!
Since aggressive chasing doesn’t mean genuineness of intent, now weigh the odds, what’s the worst thing that can happen if..

..you choose not to shoot a friendship or dating shot to who’s befitting for your journey & what are the best things that can happen if you choose to shoot your shot?
For the less daring ladies, I recommend more of the friendship shot for you. Friendship space is where you..

affirm what you think you know about him & that’s the place where a man that desires you for a relationship expresses easily.
Gone at the days when the so called “gender role” was rigid, but these days, the flexibility is quite acceptable. I’ll share few healthy examples of the..

..shift & involvement we have had in the recent years below:

1.This used to shameful & silent in some quarters but today, many Men are getting very involved in physical motherhood & in the domestic department.
2.Back then, financial liberation wasn’t a compulsory part of a..

..woman’s requirement for marital candidacy but it’s extremely important today.
3.Then, most men single handedly handle the financial affair of home but today, many women are participant in these department due to today’s economic reality.
4.Gone are the days, when many..

..husbands are the most selfish benefactor of the sexual satisfaction but today woman are well sensitized about the obtainability of mutual orgasm & they are already taking their own orgasmic share from the same pleasure bed introducing more details & versatility to their men.

I know you are praying but you can’t continue to wait the old way. The goal here is “getting found”; Get Intentional to locate your own value mate.

ARE WE TALKING ABOUT FOREVER ? The sane options are limited; the slots for the genuine candidacy is limited on both sides,..

but mostly on the men’s side. it’s high time, Iron starts gravitating towards iron.
No weighty shame here! Focus more on the gains. Participate deliberately in choosing your forever mate. Intentionality isn’t desperation. Get on board.