Thread by @babajideedges

PEACE OF MIND: One of the most carelessly used and at the same time one of the most misunderstood phrase in our dating and marital space in Nigeria.
Let’s talk about the SELFISH-TYPE-OF-PEACE-MIND, the rampant one in our society.

Shall we ? Let’s go

FOR SOME OF MY COUNTRY MEN: Peace of mind is their life of non-accountability. Where they can eat their cake & still have it.
Where they can have a girlfriend or a wife that don’t question them for clarity & explanation. Where she doesn’t demand for improvement or hold them...

...accountable to their responsibility especially to their vows and duties.

This crooked habit of demanding for Peace of mind regardless of who they are to their spouse is for the type of men that detest communication, transparency and most especially the ones that lack...

...conflict resolution skill in their relationship & marriage.
That’s why the most selfish breed go all out to marry a woman that obliges him the limitless access of ‘i don’t question him’ type of routine, as a lifestyle while same men are actively out there engaging in thrill..

...and escapades with the direct opposite of the wife at home.

They love the ideal peace at home but they lack the complementing virtues to achieve that with a Queen, so they downgrade for a woman that allows it while they chase other attributes & appeal in the outside women.

FOR SOME OF MY COUNTRY WOMEN: Constant usage and offer of peace of mind to their man belong mostly to women with the shallow understanding of self-worth, sustainable love, relationship & marriage.

They be like “let me just let it slide” No darling! you shouldn’t let it slide...

...letting it slide is the easiest way to the landmine of your marriage.

For some, it’s the bigger thing the society and culture have brainwashed them with as the most important thing you should offer as a woman to a man in a relationship and marriage.

For some ladies, they are hard core liability and the offer of “peace of mind” is their major strong point and the most reasonable thing they bring to the table of their relationship and marriage to make it work.

LET’S TALK ABOUT THE TRUE PEACE OF MIND.
These are some important points concerning true peace of mind:

1. All healthy humans desire peace of mind apart from the damaged individuals.

2. Many men seem to crave it more because of our busier mental space of functionality.

3. Peace of mind is a product of a partner’s investment into the other partner’s mental health.

4. Peace of mind is one of the compulsory virtues for marriage.

5. For a more sustainable version, peace of mind is mutually learnt & earned.

6. Dear women, drama & nagging are not synonymous with communication & demand for accountability. You are just being troublesome.

7. Do unto other people what they should do to you. A damaged ground can’t birth a healthy plant.

8. Dear Men, peace of mind doesn’t mean your...

...woman’s muteness and settling for mediocrity. She can demand for accountability and still be your peace.

9. Dearmen, don’t marry a “Yes Boss” woman all in the name of peace of mind. Gullibility gets monotonous. You are likely to seek her oppositeness in another lady soonest.

10. Dear men, She can be sexy, appealing, virtuous ( respectful and be your peace ) all at the same time in one package. Unattractiveness is not synonymous with peace

11. Dear Men, There are Women that are naturally toxic. They are the troublesome product of their upbringing...

...environment, family and past experience. Don’t indulge those from the start.

12. You don’t need to date for years to know she doesn’t fit into your ideal standard of ‘peace of mind’. Don’t use it as an excuse to waste her time while you hunts for yours, let her go on time!

Dear men, she can be respectful to you and still demand for accountability...it’s lifting bros. Iron sharpens iron - when you derail just like any other mortal, you need that conscious woman who’s your wife to straighten you.
She’s your significant other not a wall clock.