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Alexandre Philippe

31 Aug, 9 tweets, 4 min read

7 traits of the ideal #GrowthBuddy :

1-Growth mindset
2-Affinities
3-Integrity
4-Availability
5-Motivation
6-Achiever
7-No conflict of interest

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1/ Most important trait to find in your #GrowthBuddy?

The #GrowthMindset!

When you have a growth mindset, you don't think your failures define you (fixed mindset), they are just a temporary thing.

Which makes it possible to talk about your struggles in a very whole hearted way

2/ Check if you have affinities with your potential #GrowthBuddy

Ideally, your partner will share some common interests with you.

Sometimes, it is not possible to find it out right away.

You would need to have a candid conversation first to see if the magic happens.

3/ Integrity

A #GrowthBuddy relationship works best when you expose your vulnerability.

Which involves showing your weaknesses.

So you want to pair up with an honest person.

Someone who will keep your conversations private and won't try to take advantage of you.

4/ Availability

Some people have very unstable lives.

I often refer this as "party mode" in comparison with "project mode".

You will have more luck with a #GrowthBuddy who has a life sufficiently stable to devote consistent time slots to your partnership.

5/ Motivation

Try to find a #GrowthBuddy who has "strong" goals.

These are goals we work on each day.

Someone with a side hustle or a solopreneur is a good candidate.

6/ Achiever

Teaming up with an achiever is usually more motivating.

Ideally, you want to find someone who is already in motion toward their goals.

For example if your #GrowthBuddy already has some kind of blog or portfolio that you can check out, it is a good sign.

7/ No conflict of interest

Lastly, the ideal #GrowthBuddy won't have any major conflict of interest with you.

For example, conflicts of interest can happen if you pair up with:
- A direct competitor
- Your boss
- Your mum
- Your girfriend/boyfriend

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