The lives of these children are precious. But make no mistake, in their quest to “become parents”Buttigieg & Chasten have violated the rights of these two children. They have denied these twins not just one mother, but three. 1/4
These babies have been forced to lose their genetic mother, the egg “donor.” Thus these kids (like many other donor children) may experience identity struggles. They will likely seek her out to discover their medical history and behold the woman who reflects their features. 2/4
These children have lost a relationship with their birth mother, the surrogate, inflicting a #primalwound. Many children adopted at birth argue that this separation resulted in difficulty trusting and attaching throughout life. 3/4
These children will be denied a social mother- the daily female presence in their home, furnishing them with the maternal love that all children crave & maximizing child development.
For kids, none of these 3 moms are optional. Insisting they lose one or all is an injustice. 4/4
And why are they in a hospital bed?? Where is the woman in whose body those babies grew and gestated for nine months? The woman who labored bring them into this world?
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My high schooler is explaining her support for #traditionalmarriage to a friend and we drafted a child-centric outline for her case. Here’s it is:
1. Children have a natural right to their mother/father. Adults care which baby they leave the hospital with- they don’t want just any baby. They want *their* baby because biology matters to parents. It matter to kids too.
2. Marriage unites the 2 people to whom children have a natural right and the 2 people statistically most likely to provide love/safety to kids & the relationship which guarantees a perfect gender balance in the home- moms/dads offer distinct/complimentary benefits to kids.
Back when I was a mother of two, I met a Chinese couple newly arrived on our shores. They spoke little English so despite the fact that she had formally been an accountant and he in tech, their US employment was that of a seamstress and a deli worker at the local grocery store.
They rented a 1 bedrm apartment which they shared w their teenage son they brought over a couple years after their arrival. Both worked as many hours as possible, often 60 or 70 hrs/week. They owned a few pairs of pants & shoes, some mismatch dishes & 2 bikes for transportation.
We were in Spokane at the time so there weren’t a lot of Chinese speakers, native or otherwise. I would stop by their apartment every week or so and Liang, the wife, and I would walk and chat. I would ask how she was doing, she would answer “tired” but always with a smile.
When talking w a friend expressing personal pain over the situation in America today- perhaps a black friend who has been followed around in a department store by security, regularly pulled over because they were profiled, 1
or grew up in a neighborhood segregated not by government edict but fatherless-induced poverty, that’s not the time to whip out the fact that only nine unarmed black men were killed by police last year. They don’t need to debate the merits or drawbacks of qualified immunity. 2
They just need you to listen and empathize and “mourn when they mourn.” Compassion needs to be your primary motivation in conversations with friends. (Romans 12:15) 3
The problem I & other conservatives are wrestling with
The BLM *org* has taken something conservatives care deeply about, the intrinsic value of all humans (esp those who suffer injustice) and used it to frost a cake baked with the most pernicious ideas humanity has ever known.
BLM is unabashedly Marxist. Marxism, which divides a population by groups, usually race or class, is responsible for every mass human evil that we have seen throughout history and especially in the 20th century. Whether it be your standard-issue genocide, ethnic cleansing...
Jews as victimizers and everyday Germans the victims, “bourgeoisie” as the victimizers and proletariat as the victims, or seeing blacks as subhuman/property based their race- no good comes when everyone in one group is considered virtuous and everybody the other group is wicked.
It feels like we are in the midst of a virtual #CivilWar. Left vs right. Love #Trump vs hate Trump. Woke vs un-woke.
We drink from two completely different news sources, and increasingly surround ourselves only with allies, making it easy to view the “other side” as the enemy. 1
Families are fractured when ideological fault lines are exposed.
Friendships end after sharing voting records.
Disagreements tend to be virtual, explosive and via anonymous avatars.
There seems to be no forum or institution where the two sides come together in peace. 2
Except the church.
Those who view Trump as the greatest threat & those who believe he’s what stands between America and socialism dine together weekly.
Those who protest and those who refuse to march citing the Marxist tenants of #BLM pick up items for each other at Costco. 3
I just spent 30 horrible minutes on Twitter watching looting and rioting across the nation. A business owner being beat to a pulp by “protesters” for trying to defend his business. A little girl screaming as people wash pepper spray from her eyes. 1/6
Atlanta’s mayor begging for businesses, most minority owned, not to be destroyed juxtaposed with images of looting. A police woman on the ground being dragged away by rioters so they can do God knows what to her. Reporters fleeing in fear from mobbing protesters. 2/6
Then I watched the last minutes of George Floyd’s life on video with my sons.