Differentiation on the screen.
At first it is easier to see Differentiation of Self than it is to practice it. It takes training and can feel conceptual, so seeing it in action can help.
Here are a few examples from TV and Movies
but first....
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At first it is easier to see Differentiation of Self than it is to practice it. It takes training and can feel conceptual, so seeing it in action can help.
Here are a few examples from TV and Movies
but first....
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Differentiation is 4 things at once:
1. Managing your reactivity from erupting into others.
2. Not catching the reactivity coming at you.
3. Staying emotionally connected to the person.
4. Clarifying your own values and convictions.
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1. Managing your reactivity from erupting into others.
2. Not catching the reactivity coming at you.
3. Staying emotionally connected to the person.
4. Clarifying your own values and convictions.
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Ted Lasso.
S2: Keely is differentiated. She attaches to others, but is not enmeshed in them. She manages Jamie, Roy and Roy's niece with compassion even when they come at her highly anxious.
She is a calm presence.
(A minor setback in E7)
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S2: Keely is differentiated. She attaches to others, but is not enmeshed in them. She manages Jamie, Roy and Roy's niece with compassion even when they come at her highly anxious.
She is a calm presence.
(A minor setback in E7)
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The Crown. S1
Queen Elizabeth manages her father's traditional advisors and Winston Freaking Churchill. ('Every English man wants to be told off by his mum!)
She clarifies who she is in uncharted territoriy, advocates for herself, tries to understand what Phillip needs.
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Queen Elizabeth manages her father's traditional advisors and Winston Freaking Churchill. ('Every English man wants to be told off by his mum!)
She clarifies who she is in uncharted territoriy, advocates for herself, tries to understand what Phillip needs.
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Million Dollar Arm.
Brenda, the literal girl next door, manages Jamie's outbursts and anger.
She puts the anxiety back where it belongs - on the one generating it. She invites Jamie to take responsibility rather than carry it for him.
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Brenda, the literal girl next door, manages Jamie's outbursts and anger.
She puts the anxiety back where it belongs - on the one generating it. She invites Jamie to take responsibility rather than carry it for him.
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Spotlight.
@PostBaron helps lapsed Catholic reporters dig into systemic abuse. Triangulation, meetings after the meeting, scapegoatinging. He defines, clarifies, calmly states values and conviction.
He calms the room so they can see what is actually going on.
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@PostBaron helps lapsed Catholic reporters dig into systemic abuse. Triangulation, meetings after the meeting, scapegoatinging. He defines, clarifies, calmly states values and conviction.
He calms the room so they can see what is actually going on.
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Spotlight
Robbie, the head of Spotlight navigates scapegoating from life long friends and his own culpability. He keeps his anxiety about his own culpability from spilling into the job at hand. He manages anxiety coming at him from his anxious team.
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Robbie, the head of Spotlight navigates scapegoating from life long friends and his own culpability. He keeps his anxiety about his own culpability from spilling into the job at hand. He manages anxiety coming at him from his anxious team.
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Darkest Hour.
Churchill is elected PM by his rivals days before Hitler would attempt to invade. The world depended on Churchill fighting Hitler while his rivals tried to trap him politically. He brought his rivals closer so he could bring the secret fight into the open.
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Churchill is elected PM by his rivals days before Hitler would attempt to invade. The world depended on Churchill fighting Hitler while his rivals tried to trap him politically. He brought his rivals closer so he could bring the secret fight into the open.
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West Wing S6 and 7.
Donna realizes she is enmeshed in Josh and is stuck in homeostasis. She offers several times to talk about her role, he dismisses, so she leaves and then clarifies when he chases her angry.
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Donna realizes she is enmeshed in Josh and is stuck in homeostasis. She offers several times to talk about her role, he dismisses, so she leaves and then clarifies when he chases her angry.
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I would do more, but I'm single dadding this week and my teen daughter suddenly needs to buy a t shirt before school.
I de escalate her anxiety by stopping this thread early to help her.
I am available to sell the movie rights to this story.
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I de escalate her anxiety by stopping this thread early to help her.
I am available to sell the movie rights to this story.
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Kaylee says that Rori is differentiated with Paris in Gilmore Girls. Over time Rori’s health infects Paris’ anxiety and strengthens the relationship. It pains me to complement GG, but for love of my daughter I must agree.
Frozen. Step 4: values and convictions… differentiation helps us align them with what is true. Olaf values playing in hot sunshine, but must face reality and adjust his convictions to what is true. When you are calm, it increases your capacity to along with truth.
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