So I have long pondered how I can support ND people in crisis, like, those for whom coaching is not appropriate. Don't get me wrong; I think coaching is the bees knees but you kinda have to be at a certain place in your life for it to make sense for you
if you're struggling to just keep a roof over your head you don't have a lot of capacity to think about the best strategy not to lose your keys, or what you *really* want out of life and how to work with your ADHD to get there. And I've coached lots of people in crisis;
just being a presence there, being a person who supports them, cares about them and holds the space & helps them work through figuring things out when everything feels like it's on fire is a worthy endeavour, but in that situation coaching isn't helping the best it can
so I have like another idea, tell me what you think.

it's like a nonprofit or something and it provides hands-on supportive services for people with executive dysfunction either short or long term. Something between an advocate, social worker, personal support worker.
someone - or someones - to help with things like taxes, filing things, making phone calls, organizing bills and budgets. people with ADHD *absolutely can* do these things, as in, we have the capability, but sometimes we can't do them, especially when stressed or overwhelmed
even when it means insane late fees, leaving things too long and they expire, objectively making our own lives harder by not dealing with something in a timely fashion, extreme avoidance. I know there's the 'extra spoons' FB group but that's pretty ad hoc.
What if there was like a specific agency where you could get drop in support with boring or stressful life tasks that are objectively harder for people with ADHD so we don't get so fucked up when we are already fucked up? What would it look like? how would it work?
does it already exist? please tell me if so.
It would have to be low barrier to access; like, no lengthy forms or waiting on the phone. Like somehow virtual walk-in. It would have to provide services on an as-needed basis. Most people with ADHD won't need a social worker or to be in some kind of formal care system but
I have certainly seen people struggle to the point of it costing them their jobs (maybe more than once), struggling with addictions issues, etc. So like, if you generally can manage it all but you go through a big life stressor like losing a loved one or a job loss
it would be cool if there was some place you could go while you *just cant* and some friendly guy named Kyle sits down and helps you open that bank account you're struggling to open because it requires making three phone calls, going into the bank and doing a thing online
(by the way, that person was me, yesterday. I tried to open a bank account online, it didn't fully work for some reason, I called twice, they told me to GO INTO THE BANK which I did, the teller told me I had to call *my* home branch and the dude at the home branch told me
i'd have to come into HIS home branch and I GOT A LITTLE IGNORANT NOT GONNA LIE BUT I ALSO APOLOGIZED FOR SWEARING AND YELLING BUT I DEFINITELY WENT FULL CHIPURA IN THAT MOMENT AND ALMOST STARTED CRYING CAUSE I JUST WANTED A NEW BANK ACCOUNT)
anyway, this is post-coffee pre-meds rambling but, if we could make a thing like that, what would it look like and how could it best support ADHDers in crisis? Or, people for whom ADHD is so disabling on an ongoing basis that they really need this support but are functional
in a way where the government systems around them don't recognize them as being in need of ongoing support services?
ooh another thing: the people there would have to be ok with you communicating in a very piecemeal or abrupt way because sometimes you just don't have the capacity to communicate up to NT standards when you're like.... in complete overwhelm one step away from a meltdown mode

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20 Aug
hey #ADHD twitter, an American client has a medical problem I don't know how to solve.

This client went to a psychiatrist and was prescribed meds for ADHD. Then their insurance lapsed and one appointment was not paid for. The doctor advised the client they owed $500
which the client could not pay (but offered half). The client asked for their medical records to go to another doctor, and was refused. They were told that their medical records do not belong to them and would not be released until the bill was settled.
The client got the police involved and a police report was filed, but the client was told it was a civil matter and that they would need to get a lawyer. As a result, the client has not been able to get a prescription for their ADHD medication.
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2 Aug
Good morning! Here’s your Mon morning #ADHD basics thread:

ADHD causes an inability to “feel” time. It is said that people with ADHD have a short “time horizon”; that we can’t see very far into the future. Since we struggle both to measure time (as in, how long something takes)
And to feel the future, it can complicate a lot of things. Some examples:

- chronic lateness due to not knowing how long things actually take (like getting ready, driving somewhere etc)
- overbooking /busying oneself due to not being able to accurately judge how much time things will take up in the schedule

- not being able to work consistently toward a goal because it feels too far away and it’s in the “not-now”

- not managing time well in the moment
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1 Aug
Here’s a story for the ‘kids with #adhd tend to have social struggles due to NOT paying attention to social cues’ file (@AuthorCarolineM you’re going to love this one).

In the early 90s I was invited to my friend Gillian’s birthday. We were 9, maybe 10.
My mom took me to the mall to get her a gift. At the time I thought my big brother was just about the coolest guy in the world (he’s 7 years older than me) and that everything he liked was the best, and at that time he was really into rap and hip hop.
I had seen this @SnoopDogg cassette tape he had, and it had a little cartoon comic inside, so naturally that is what I got her. I guess my mom just… didn’t check or look at it? Because this was the comic:

google.com/amp/s/genius.c…
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6 Jul
I think one thing people forget about #ADHD is that it creates a variable capacity. People don't understand how someone can be so high-performing and then the next time, forget something completely basic and important or make a really careless mistake.
This also has ramifications for the person WITH ADHD... imagine thinking "i've got this! I've done this before!" and then goofing up big time in a way that is frankly embarrassing and just... not being able to explain how that happened 🤷‍♀️
In a sense you know; you can look back and realize, "I was distracted", "I wasn't paying attention" etc... but it seems infathomable. To have a variable capacity costs us our relationship with ourselves because adults with ADHD come to mistrust their own capacity.
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3 Apr
When your friends and acquaintances on FB send you messages like this.....🤦‍♀️

*cracks knuckles*
At this point messages like these actively make me angry and I have to check myself not to just angrily unload on them lol. But COME ON.
My response:
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1 Apr
this is an important thread and also can we use it as a jumping off point to compile a list of accessible resources/tools for people who face financial barriers?
I have a whole tangent to go on here about coaching but I'mma start with the resources:

Podcasts that offer ADHD tips, tricks and skills (not all of which may be accessible/free but the podcast itself is)
- @translatingadhd
-@FasterNormal
- @adhdadulting
- @adhdessentials
Focusmate - offers up to 3 free body doubling sessions a month and then is only $5/month membership afterwards. Body doubling is, IMHO the *GOLD STANDARD* of productivity support for the Thing I Can't Make Myself Sit Down And Do
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