6 Steps to OVERCOME Regret
(Learn the psychological tools to prevail over guilt)
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(Learn the psychological tools to prevail over guilt)
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There are only two types of people:
People who say they have regrets.
And people who lie.
People who say they have regrets.
And people who lie.
We all make mistakes that we regret.
But sometimes regret becomes all-consuming and destructive.
It robs your happiness. It causes you grief. It restricts your future.
But sometimes regret becomes all-consuming and destructive.
It robs your happiness. It causes you grief. It restricts your future.
But it's not all doom and gloom.
If you learn to overcome regret, then it can teach you powerful lessons that will stay with you forever.
Here's how you can do that:
If you learn to overcome regret, then it can teach you powerful lessons that will stay with you forever.
Here's how you can do that:
TL;DR
1. Accept reality
2. Be kind to yourself
3. Get rid of unhelpful thinking patterns
4. Believe in your capacity to grow
5. Learn from your regret
6. Take responsibility and make amends
1. Accept reality
2. Be kind to yourself
3. Get rid of unhelpful thinking patterns
4. Believe in your capacity to grow
5. Learn from your regret
6. Take responsibility and make amends
1. Accept Reality
Regret is uncomfortable.
So you try to run away from it.
But it's not something that you can deny or suppress forever.
Do that and the pain returns with a vengeance.
Regret is uncomfortable.
So you try to run away from it.
But it's not something that you can deny or suppress forever.
Do that and the pain returns with a vengeance.
The mistakes were real.
They happened and there's no way to roll them back.
Better to embrace the reality and acknowledge the truth.
This is the first step.
They happened and there's no way to roll them back.
Better to embrace the reality and acknowledge the truth.
This is the first step.
2. Be Kind to Yourself
Guilt is often useful.
It brings rectification.
But wallow in it too much and it turns into shame.
You go from "doing something wrong" to "being wrong".
Guilt is often useful.
It brings rectification.
But wallow in it too much and it turns into shame.
You go from "doing something wrong" to "being wrong".
It doesn’t make what happened okay.
Nor does it improve your future.
To be human is to make mistakes.
Show yourself the same mercy you expect from others.
Forgiving yourself won’t make the regret go away.
But it frees you from the power it holds over you.
Nor does it improve your future.
To be human is to make mistakes.
Show yourself the same mercy you expect from others.
Forgiving yourself won’t make the regret go away.
But it frees you from the power it holds over you.
3. Get Rid of Unhelpful Thinking Patterns
- All-or-nothing: “This only proves that I am unworthy”
- Catastrophizing: "I'm doomed forever"
- Ignoring the good: “This mistake overshadows everything I did"
- Fortunetelling: “I should have known better"
Get rid of them.
- All-or-nothing: “This only proves that I am unworthy”
- Catastrophizing: "I'm doomed forever"
- Ignoring the good: “This mistake overshadows everything I did"
- Fortunetelling: “I should have known better"
Get rid of them.
Stop looking at the dark clouds.
Start finding silver linings.
Start finding silver linings.
4. Believe in Your Capacity to Grow
Regret makes you hesitant.
You feel you need to hide behind the curtains.
But one mistake doesn't doom you to permanent failure.
Once you're ready, allow yourself to take some bold steps again.
You have the advantage of experience now.
Regret makes you hesitant.
You feel you need to hide behind the curtains.
But one mistake doesn't doom you to permanent failure.
Once you're ready, allow yourself to take some bold steps again.
You have the advantage of experience now.
5. Learn From Your Regret
Regret can be the best teacher.
It tells you the kind of person you want to be.
Find meaning in your mistakes.
When you do that, you grow.
Regret can be the best teacher.
It tells you the kind of person you want to be.
Find meaning in your mistakes.
When you do that, you grow.
6. Take Responsibility and Make Amends
The final step is to accept responsibility.
Own what happened.
Seek forgiveness if you need to.
There will be people who are still hurting.
People who want you to make you "pay".
The final step is to accept responsibility.
Own what happened.
Seek forgiveness if you need to.
There will be people who are still hurting.
People who want you to make you "pay".
Make amends.
But avoid overcompensation.
And what if nothing can be done to repair the situation?
Then resolve to be better the next time.
But avoid overcompensation.
And what if nothing can be done to repair the situation?
Then resolve to be better the next time.
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