Thread by @OneGSisneros

"83% Of All Marriages Are Unhappy"

My wife gives her very best advice to get you into the top 17%

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I NEVER EVER talk poorly about him behind his back. I always lift him up. No matter what.

Women are black belts in this. Stop it.

I'm interested in what he's doing.

He goes through phases.

• early in our marriage he trained for triathlons
• then went through a poker phase
• now, it's Twitter.

I love it. (And I love that I get to post on his page today)

We both mess up. We're human.

He forgives me and I forgive him.

I love all 8 of my kids, deeply. LOVE them.

But my husband comes first.

Three of our kids have flown the nest. Eventually, they all will,

But he'll still be there.

George and I have our own quiet time in the mornings but at 7am, we have coffee together.

We talk and dream and pray together.

Every morning.

It's my favorite time of day.

In the beginning we were horrible with our finances.

We made a lot of money, but we spent more.

12 years ago we paid off all our debt so we could escape the pressure it brought into our relationship.

I let him lead.

We're kind to each other.

I know that sounds basic but we know so many couples who aren't.

We do new and adventurous things together.

• we've competed in triathlons
• we've run a marathon
• we've climbed some of the world's highest mountains

Together

George doesn't know this, but I have an app on my phone where I keep track of all the things I love and appreciate about him.

I write in it every day.

It helps me be more aware of who he is and how much he loves me.

I make it a point to ask, "What can I do for you today?"

Every day.

Most days he says, "I'm good babe."

But sometimes he needs help and I'm grateful for those days.

I don't keep score. As far as I'm concerned, he's winning and I'm trying to catch up.

We both work that way. It's beautiful.

In the beginning, we couldn't talk about our differences without yelling.

We eventually learned we could write notes to each other to express how we were feeling.

Try different ways of communicating.

We still date each other like we did when we first met. Friday nights are sacred. No one messes with them.

He takes me out to a new restaurant. We flirt. And when we get home, I put out. (Haha. Yea. You read that right.)

We touch each other.

When we're walking down the street, he holds my hand. When we're watching a movie, he pulls my head to his chest.

Men, pay attention.

I give him space to have a bad moment or even a bad day. I don't push.

There's almost always a reason that has nothing to do with me or our marriage.

We're on the same team.

We aren't against each other.

I want the best for him and he wants the best for me.

When I go out with friends, he takes care of the kids. Notice I didn't say he "babysits".

Seriously? You may need to get some new vocabulary.

Neither one of us curse.

Ok. He swears sometimes.

But there's ONE word neither one of us ever say,

The D-word. Divorce.

Never. Ever.

He always tells me he loves my cooking. I was a horrible cook in the beginning. I eventually just believed him and now I'm a great cook.

One of the things I love about our marriage is we appreciate each other.

Lastly,

He's my best friend. I know, I know. So cliche.

In 47 years, I've never had a friend I trusted more. I can tell him anything.

He's there when I go to bed and he's there when I wake up. No matter what.

I trust him with my life.

I hope you liked this thread. I hope the very best for you and your marriage (even if you're not married yet).

I would love this post to go viral for two reasons.

1. Because I wish I had this advice as a newly married wife. I hope this reaches everyone who needs it.

2. Because my husband deserves it. I would love to give him a "viral" tweet.

Follow him @OneGSisneros and go to the top and retweet this.

** note from George

HOLY SHIT. What do you say to that???

When you marry someone, I hope she has my wife's heart ❤️.