Thread by @TheBrometheus

Women ask all the time, "Where can I find a good husband?"

Where would you want him to be when he's not with you? Answer: With his family. You won't find him at a bar or social event.

You can't get into his family alone. But you've got a network. Ask them to matchmake for you.

Be clear about expectations. And make sure you ask your healthiest network members to search for you.

They'll have your best interests at heart. They'll know the man and his family in advance. They won't set you up with problems.

This also adds pressure for him to respect you.

If you're searching through strangers, you're looking for the straw in a needle pile: a lot of little pricks out to hurt you.

Don't look at strangers. Ask your trusted network to find a match for you. They'll do the work for you in advance.

Of course, this goes both ways. They won't match up a man they care about with a wife who has no value in relationships. You'll need to do the work to raise your own relationship value. That means making yourself healthy in every way and showing that you know how to love.

You probably won't find the perfect husband if you're searching alone through crowds of strangers.

But if you've got five trusted people matchmaking on your behalf, the game becomes easy. Once you meet, the pressure goes up to respect each other. And the stated goal is marriage.