23 Red Flags that SCREAM a Narcissistic Partner 🚩
(Watch out for these psychological traits and protect yourself from a lifelong misery)
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(Watch out for these psychological traits and protect yourself from a lifelong misery)
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Narcissism is a modern epidemic.
It causes untold miseries and leaves long-lasting scars.
But what if you're in a relationship with one?
Narcissists are masters at reeling you in.
So you don't realize you're screwed until it's too late.
It causes untold miseries and leaves long-lasting scars.
But what if you're in a relationship with one?
Narcissists are masters at reeling you in.
So you don't realize you're screwed until it's too late.
But there are always telltale signs that they leave behind.
These red flags are never wise to ignore.
Being aware of them and acting on them early can help you avoid a life's worth of pain.
Enter Dr. Ramani Durvasula.
These red flags are never wise to ignore.
Being aware of them and acting on them early can help you avoid a life's worth of pain.
Enter Dr. Ramani Durvasula.
She is a clinical psychologist who specializes in narcissistic disorders.
In her book "Should I Stay or Should I Go" (aff), she empowers you to handle narcissism.
She uses checklists, clinical wisdom, and real stories from real people to do so.
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In her book "Should I Stay or Should I Go" (aff), she empowers you to handle narcissism.
She uses checklists, clinical wisdom, and real stories from real people to do so.
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This thread is an excerpt from her book.
So here are 23 traits that scream a narcissistic partner:
So here are 23 traits that scream a narcissistic partner:
1. Cold and Distant
They have difficulty understanding the feelings of other people.
They seem cold or unfeeling when you share your feelings with them.
They get disconnected when you experience or show strong emotions.
They have difficulty understanding the feelings of other people.
They seem cold or unfeeling when you share your feelings with them.
They get disconnected when you experience or show strong emotions.
2. Arrogant
They are arrogant.
They are convinced of their superiority over others.
They always exaggerate their life, work, and accomplishments in a grandiose way.
They are arrogant.
They are convinced of their superiority over others.
They always exaggerate their life, work, and accomplishments in a grandiose way.
3. Entitled
They think they are entitled to special treatment.
They demand that from everyone.
From businesses. Service workers. Even friends.
They get angry if this special treatment is not given to them.
They think they are entitled to special treatment.
They demand that from everyone.
From businesses. Service workers. Even friends.
They get angry if this special treatment is not given to them.
4. Manipulative
They manipulate people and situations to get their needs met.
They have little regard for the needs, wants, and feelings of others.
They manipulate people and situations to get their needs met.
They have little regard for the needs, wants, and feelings of others.
5. Volatile
They are quick to anger.
The intensity of their anger is way out of proportion to the situation at hand.
They are quick to anger.
The intensity of their anger is way out of proportion to the situation at hand.
6. Paranoid
They project what they are onto others.
They believe that other people are out to get them or take advantage of them.
They project what they are onto others.
They believe that other people are out to get them or take advantage of them.
7. Defensive
They are quick to dish out criticism.
But criticisms from others make them angry.
They get defensive even with the slightest hint of feedback.
They are quick to dish out criticism.
But criticisms from others make them angry.
They get defensive even with the slightest hint of feedback.
8. Jealous
They are jealous of your success, relationships, friendships, and opportunities.
They are jealous of you.
They are jealous of your success, relationships, friendships, and opportunities.
They are jealous of you.
9. Oblivious
They lie, cheat, hurt, and steal.
But they don't feel guilty about them.
They are oblivious to the fact that regular people don't do these.
They lie, cheat, hurt, and steal.
But they don't feel guilty about them.
They are oblivious to the fact that regular people don't do these.
10. Need for Validation.
They need admiration or validation.
They need compliments, awards, and honors and they constantly seek them out.
They are always telling everyone about their achievements, in person, and through social media.
They need admiration or validation.
They need compliments, awards, and honors and they constantly seek them out.
They are always telling everyone about their achievements, in person, and through social media.
11. Lying
Lying comes as second nature to them.
They lie regularly and often without any need.
While not lying they give you the incomplete truth.
They omit important details or they give you inconsistent information.
Lying comes as second nature to them.
They lie regularly and often without any need.
While not lying they give you the incomplete truth.
They omit important details or they give you inconsistent information.
12. Vanity
They make a great show out of their life.
They are vain and obsessed with their appearance.
Everything has to be larger than life.
Every chink has to be smoothened out while they portray their lives to others.
They make a great show out of their life.
They are vain and obsessed with their appearance.
Everything has to be larger than life.
Every chink has to be smoothened out while they portray their lives to others.
13. Projection
They project their feelings onto you.
They accuse you of being angry while they are yelling.
They accuse you of being jealous while they harbor jealousy
They project their feelings onto you.
They accuse you of being angry while they are yelling.
They accuse you of being jealous while they harbor jealousy
14. Greed and Materialism
They covet more money and things.
Nothing feels enough for them.
And they won't stop at anything to get their hands on them.
They covet more money and things.
Nothing feels enough for them.
And they won't stop at anything to get their hands on them.
15. Tuning Out
They tune you out while you are talking to them.
They yawn, check their device, or get distracted while you are talking to them.
They tune you out while you are talking to them.
They yawn, check their device, or get distracted while you are talking to them.
16. Vulnerability to Stress
They become vulnerable or sensitive when they are under stress.
They don't handle disappointments well.
They become vulnerable or sensitive when they are under stress.
They don't handle disappointments well.
17. Unfaithfulness
They have cheated on you in the past either sexually or emotionally.
They maintain inappropriate relationships with friends or colleagues.
Even when they are told that this is uncomfortable for you.
They have cheated on you in the past either sexually or emotionally.
They maintain inappropriate relationships with friends or colleagues.
Even when they are told that this is uncomfortable for you.
18. Need for Constant Company
They find it difficult to spend time alone.
They seek company or a distraction from their devices.
They find it difficult to spend time alone.
They seek company or a distraction from their devices.
19. Malice
They like to see other people fail.
They feel satisfied when other's lives or businesses are not going well, especially if they were jealous of them.
They like to see other people fail.
They feel satisfied when other's lives or businesses are not going well, especially if they were jealous of them.
20. Unpredictability
Their moods, behaviors, and lifestyle are unpredictable and inconsistent.
You feel like you never know what's coming next.
Their moods, behaviors, and lifestyle are unpredictable and inconsistent.
You feel like you never know what's coming next.
21. Need for Control
They are controlling.
They attempt to control your behavior.
They are obsessive and compulsive in their need for order and control in their environment and their schedule.
They are controlling.
They attempt to control your behavior.
They are obsessive and compulsive in their need for order and control in their environment and their schedule.
22. Avoiding Responsibility
They are quick to blame others for their mistakes.
They defend themselves instead of taking responsibility.
They are quick to blame others for their mistakes.
They defend themselves instead of taking responsibility.
23. Invalidating
They invalidate your thoughts and feelings.
They second guess and doubt you constantly.
So much that you are the one who starts feeling crazy.
They invalidate your thoughts and feelings.
They second guess and doubt you constantly.
So much that you are the one who starts feeling crazy.
Having a couple of these traits is fine.
But 10 of them? 15 of them? 20 of them?
That's the danger zone.
If you find yourself with a partner with these many red flags, the wise decision would be to throw in the towel.
Life is not a Disney movie and love cannot conquer all.
But 10 of them? 15 of them? 20 of them?
That's the danger zone.
If you find yourself with a partner with these many red flags, the wise decision would be to throw in the towel.
Life is not a Disney movie and love cannot conquer all.
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