I feel this thread. One of the reasons I give blanket extensions is BC I’m the only Black woman in my dept. I get enough misogynoir in my teaching evals, I’m not about to add on this. So I understand.
It does make even more work for me later, so I give little to no feedback.
I will say, I find these conversations cringe because some students never give faculty any grace. They don’t care.
Part of these #AcademicTwitter convos around extensions, ethics of care, etc. need to consider how students back faculty (esp. w/ marginalized IDs) into corners.
Reciprocity is a real thing. And I understand power dynamics. Yes.
And yet, when students ask for extensions and we grant them, sometimes the same student will say “took too long to give feedback” on the eval.
The math ain’t mathing.
When you add this with OPs point, which coincidentally was discussed in my diversity class this week, that many students automatically position classes lower in their to do list when it de enters whiteness, there’s some there there to consider.
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If you think having the means to support your child (adult or not) but letting them live on the streets is “tough love,” you don’t deserve kids.
I truly hate anyone who can show disdain towards a life they created *without the input* of said person. We didn’t ask to be born.
We are living in times of extreme wealth inequality. Extreme food and housing insecurity to match. And you think tough love is what folks need?
18 years is just a start. It’s only a piece of what you owe your kids. And for someone who has borderline limitless wealth? Plz.
This isn’t a discussion about a struggling family who can’t afford to help. And even if it were, parental support is not solely about money. You can’t, with all your resources, connect your kid to services? And for the sake of your grandkids?
I am seeing a massive number of higher ed jobs with salaries under 30,000.
It’s 2021.
Everything costs more generally but even more so BC of the panoramic.
Has anyone considered how completely unethical it is to offer this substandard salary generally but especially now??
The worse part is, some of the salaries *for full-time employment* are similar to those of graduate students who only work part-time AND report they can't afford to live off these salaries?
The burden and disparities this is and will continue to cause higher ed are profound.
For one, most first-gen and low-income graduates cannot afford to exist with these salaries when they have no social safety net. That means your applicant pool will be full of people who can afford to take a low salary for "experience" because they have other resources.
You know what’s funny about this? Many men *sings* love to make babies because they know it’s socially acceptable for them to do the bare minimum work or none at all.
When I was in my 20s and still undecided about kids, I laid my cards on the table for the men I seriously dated—
When I laid out my expectations for procreation, they all had a aneurysm.
I didn’t even ask for a lot: marriage, private school, FL tutors, nanny/ day care, health care, house with lots of space, meal delivery service, cleaning service 2x a month, I keep my career, etc.
Now— if you grew up solidly upper middle class or better, every thing on that list is normal as hell.
But many of them went on about how I was being unreasonable. No. I realized early in my 20s that I couldn’t have the life I envisioned for myself without all those things.
Our foster care system is already incredibly broken and understaffed/ served.
Many children in the system experience conditions no one should be subjected to.
If men want to control pregnancy, they should use condoms, get vasectomies, and abstain.
I have so many questions.
When men try to introduce bills like this.
1. Is he on the hook for her pregnancy care? 2. If she dies in labor, is he ab accessory to her murder? 3. If a woman wants nothing to do with the child, will he be legally forced to take on 100% of the child’s care.
I’m tired of TV shows doing this whole husband has a mid life crisis, leaves his wife/ family, and then he starts pining after the wife’s single, childless friend.
Single, childfree women want their own men. And we def don’t want the used up ones that are close.