Thread by @OneGSisneros

How to know if she's THE ONE?

Very few people know right away if someone is the right one. It takes time.

This is what I would tell my sons:

Make a list of qualities your looking for in a wife. It could be 5 or 50. Rank them in order of importance to you.

Know what you're looking for.

Don't share your list with anyone. You'll be judged.

Make a list of non-negotiables.

What will you NOT bend on?

Hold your ground on these.

Then, go on a lot of first dates.

When she seems right, ask her out on a second date.

Keep asking her out until you uncover a non-negotiable.

Date her until she shows you she's not the one.

Don't have expectations. That's too much pressure.

The more you date, the more you get to know her, the closer you'll be to knowing if she's right for you.

It takes time. Be patient. Some people try to rush the process.

They commit too soon.
They have sex too soon.
They become vulnerable too soon.
Some even get married too soon.

Patience.

Dating should be fun and exciting.

Scary. But good scary.

Your feelings and emotions will be deeper than almost anything else you do. Ever.

Embrace it. Own it.

And sometimes, lightning strikes.

I knew my wife was the one, almost immediately.

How???

Bank tellers are trained to handle and recognize real bills over and over again, so they can more easily spot the fake ones.

I'd been on dozens of first dates. Maybe 100! I'd seen so many who I KNEW weren't 'the one' that when I found her, I knew SHE WAS.

BUT...

Just because I knew, didn't mean SHE knew. It's a process.

We dated for 9 months before I asked her to marry me.

We were engaged for another 9 months before we sealed our covenant.

It take time.
Don't rush it.
Enjoy it.
Be curious.

But most importantly, be patient.

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