Before we begin a discussion on polarity in a sexual sense, we must define what it means. Polarity used means opposition but in attraction as in magnetism. Two different positions that stand apart and yet are pulled together as in feminine to masculine.
An explanation of masculine/feminine polarity requires us to define the differences between male and female. A woman is biologically more vulnerable than a man due to her hormonal monthly shifting and incapacity during pregnancy. This is the base point we can think upon.
Since a woman is battling her hormone fueled emotional state, she innately desires a man who is able to transcend and control his emotions. A woman's emotional rollercoaster experience creates a feeling of uncertainty within her. This causes her to desire a man of great certainty
A female is captive by her biology and seeks the polar opposite which the male of our species who not contained by the same imprisonments. But sexual attraction is not the simple. Why?
Because although the male of our species is not imprisoned by his biology like the female, he can be imprisoned by psychology that creates a false imprisonment that resembles the cage of the female. This deflates his polarity as his mating ritual begins to mimic the female.
"Nice guys" are sexual selection mimics (Lacking polarity) not because they have biological restraints but because they listen to women who tell them to act like women to attract them which disrupts the polarity necessary for attraction.
"Nice guys" act the way they do, not because they are pure spirits but because they view it as the best strategy in their sexual selection. It is a masked trick and that is why women view "Nice guys" as bigger creeps than jerks. Women are correct.
Women innately seek their biological opposite and that means "Emotionally stable and strong certainty of self" What does certainty-of-self mean? It means to be independent in thought and will. It to believe in self enough to disobey others. A leader's mind.
From a woman's biologically fueled uncertainty, she will seek the false confidence of a "Jerk" than the false humility of a "Nice guy" who moralizes his self-doubt. She seeks a man to lead her from her doubt. Do not take it personally. It is the biological framework
Now let us explain what happens when a man is emotional/ruled by doubt. A woman will shift her polarity away from him but in resentment. She will become cold/certain. It is against her biology and causes her to feel anger in this irresponsibleness of her male to bear that burden
That is why unframed men create cruel women. A woman is whatever a man is not. Women form themselves around us. We position ourselves and women align with us like in a dance. That is why soft men create hardened women and hardened men create soft women. We control polarity.
Masculine frame is when a man overcomes the feminine frame of authority (Certainty of self) and lowers his emotion through restraint of expression. This creates a opposite effect to a woman's innate biological state of high emotion/doubt that informs her sexual selection.
Many men are thinking why women would hate male speech when women encourage men that "Express is best"- This thread will discuss this phenomenon in detail. We judge not women's words but what they reward through action. This is masculine frame.
Why do we speak? To make inner selves known to others. Why? Two main reasons. One is either through rational discourse to adjust our reasoning with another (Masculine) And the other is for emotional validation of our inner state (Feminine)
This one will be a deep dive. Before we discuss why women encourage men to be nice guys, let us define "niceness"-- The dictionary definition is "Pleasant, agreeable; satisfactory"-- Let us know break each of those apart in explanation.
What are examples of pleasantry? A soft breeze. An uneventful day. Gentle waves rolling to shore. No confrontation that disturbs. Replace the word "Pleasant" for "Passive" -- Women want men to be passive.
Before we go into discussion in the topic. Let us define romance. Romance is to inspire a deep feeling in a woman in the form of "Love" or high emotion which pulls her into sexual orbit. That is why we separate a romantic relationship from friendships. Sex and high emotion.
Many men will think that my message of frame is too rigid, and that softness brings greater benefit to a relationship with a woman. What benefit? Emotional attachment and sexual arousal. But does a romantic guy inspire those two elements better than a framed man?
What hurts men more, promiscuity or porn consumption?
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When we are discussing promiscuity versus porn, we must speak about damage to men and women together. What is good for men is good for women and what is good for women is good for men. Therefore, while one may be more damaging to one, we must take them both together.
Why should we care about women in our tribe? Because we are framed men and that means we are responsible for all women. All women in reality are our responsibility. Many immature and weak men will deny or reject this. Redpill gurus refuse this grand and global responsibility.
Before we go into discussion on male confession to a woman, we must discuss what guilt means. A man with a guilty conscience is a man in doubt of how his behavior is aligning with his identity. And now just how he perceives himself but how those in authority perceive him.
Guilt under authority makes a person doubt themself. And what is the authority? It is whatever a man deems as moral authority above. It can be nation, tribe, church or any group where shame would make an individual doubt himself.
A woman is ruled by dual emotion each month. She is ruled by sexual confidence one half and emotional vulnerability the next. This creates a feeling of certainty in her spirit as she must battle against her own perception.
This irrational feeling of self is like a woman head is spinning. And from this spinning and vulnerable state she will look to others to stabilize herself. A woman left spinning alone goes mad and sinks in her own doubt.