This one will be a deep dive. Before we discuss why women encourage men to be nice guys, let us define "niceness"-- The dictionary definition is "Pleasant, agreeable; satisfactory"-- Let us know break each of those apart in explanation.
What are examples of pleasantry? A soft breeze. An uneventful day. Gentle waves rolling to shore. No confrontation that disturbs. Replace the word "Pleasant" for "Passive" -- Women want men to be passive.
Why do women encourage men to be agreeable? Because a man who agrees with everything a woman says is a man who can be easily manipulated for control and exploitation in sexual selection.
Why would making men passive and agreeable be satisfactory to women? Because most women do not want to be impregnated by most men. They view most men as unattractive and repulsive beings who sexually eye them in thirst. Scary? Women innately think so.
This encouragement of "Niceness" is a psychological neutering by women to control the vast majority of men. But who do women truly sexually desire to impregnant them? Men who are not nice.
Flip passive to aggressive. Flip agreeable to disagreeable. And something happens in a woman's body as if she is shot with a lightning bolt. A surging throb for sex will overwhelm her. Why? Because a masculine leader has arrived who cannot be controlled.
A man who rejects feminine control is a master and not a slave. Since a woman is already a slave to her body, she innately desires independent minded men. Men who are rebels to restraint. Bad boys who ignore manipulations and who follow their own lead.
And after the sexual heat cools. A woman will most times be abandoned by this bad boy. But she will ache for him as she keeps his child. But thankfully by encouraging men to be nice, she will have a pool of men to choose from to care for the bad boy's children.
It is sexual ache for strong seed and psychologically manipulation of encouraging men to be both nice in not spreading their weak seed and to be nice by raising another man's seed. It is sexual selection. And women will wrap flowers and romance around this narrative to sell it.
DO NOT LISTEN TO WOMEN.
Frame is having the power to ignore a woman's advice and lacking guilt for pursuing one's own pleasure. Women should be "Pleasant, agreeable and satisfactory" to us. We are the leaders, and they are they followers. This is masculine frame.
Many men are thinking why women would hate male speech when women encourage men that "Express is best"- This thread will discuss this phenomenon in detail. We judge not women's words but what they reward through action. This is masculine frame.
Why do we speak? To make inner selves known to others. Why? Two main reasons. One is either through rational discourse to adjust our reasoning with another (Masculine) And the other is for emotional validation of our inner state (Feminine)
Before we begin a discussion on polarity in a sexual sense, we must define what it means. Polarity used means opposition but in attraction as in magnetism. Two different positions that stand apart and yet are pulled together as in feminine to masculine.
An explanation of masculine/feminine polarity requires us to define the differences between male and female. A woman is biologically more vulnerable than a man due to her hormonal monthly shifting and incapacity during pregnancy. This is the base point we can think upon.
Before we go into discussion in the topic. Let us define romance. Romance is to inspire a deep feeling in a woman in the form of "Love" or high emotion which pulls her into sexual orbit. That is why we separate a romantic relationship from friendships. Sex and high emotion.
Many men will think that my message of frame is too rigid, and that softness brings greater benefit to a relationship with a woman. What benefit? Emotional attachment and sexual arousal. But does a romantic guy inspire those two elements better than a framed man?
What hurts men more, promiscuity or porn consumption?
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When we are discussing promiscuity versus porn, we must speak about damage to men and women together. What is good for men is good for women and what is good for women is good for men. Therefore, while one may be more damaging to one, we must take them both together.
Why should we care about women in our tribe? Because we are framed men and that means we are responsible for all women. All women in reality are our responsibility. Many immature and weak men will deny or reject this. Redpill gurus refuse this grand and global responsibility.
Before we go into discussion on male confession to a woman, we must discuss what guilt means. A man with a guilty conscience is a man in doubt of how his behavior is aligning with his identity. And now just how he perceives himself but how those in authority perceive him.
Guilt under authority makes a person doubt themself. And what is the authority? It is whatever a man deems as moral authority above. It can be nation, tribe, church or any group where shame would make an individual doubt himself.
A woman is ruled by dual emotion each month. She is ruled by sexual confidence one half and emotional vulnerability the next. This creates a feeling of certainty in her spirit as she must battle against her own perception.
This irrational feeling of self is like a woman head is spinning. And from this spinning and vulnerable state she will look to others to stabilize herself. A woman left spinning alone goes mad and sinks in her own doubt.