Why a man should not take rejection in romance personally.
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All men have been sexually rejected one time or another. A man may hope for an interaction with a woman and become hurt when it does not realize. He will feel hurt and will question himself. His self-esteem may lower because of being rejected. His confidence may shatter.
What does it mean to take rejection personally? It means to be emotionally affected by the rejection of our sense of self. And this rejection of self can cause a man to doubt his sense of attractiveness to women. This can cause him to sour in emotion and spike a feeling of pain
Should a man take sexual rejection personally? Yes, but he should not take it emotionally. He should feel less about the rejection and think more about the rejection. The more a man understands sex, the more he understands that it is less about his personality and more...
... about his presentation of his personality. And presentation can be altered and improved. There is many aspects of dating and game that I will eventually write about in the future. But the key thing is for a man to take account of the rejection, learn a lesson and improve.
When a woman rejects a man sexually is because he is not doing the same successful tactics as a man that she would say yes to. Does that sound like something that should make a man emotional? It is about altering presentation until women say yes.
Does a man cry or feel hurt when fish ignore or reject his bait? No. He does not doubt his sense of self and does not blame the fish. He studies them and alters his tactics. This is like romance. We figure out what works and apply winning methods.
Women can be "Gamed" because women have common arousals to methods. And how do we solve madness? With method. We do not complain or hold pain because we are too busy figuring out what works.
"But Jerr" a voice calls out "There was this special woman like no other--" Stop. God would not curse you like that and do not curse yourself with doubt. Women are in abundance. A woman who rejects you is giving you an opportunity for another.
Pay attention to winning strategies. Pay attention to what works and emotionally detach from the experience. It has less to do with your sense of self and more to do with the presentation of that self. And doubting presentation is necessary
Lower the emotion by practicing frame. Realize that romance is less about emotion and more about the hunt. And game that is missed should not be mourned long. Keep the head up. Improve. Tighten. Alter strategy and STAY PROUD.
Depression comes for each man on occasion. At times a man will feel weak, lonesome and at odds with himself. Maybe he will begin to hate himself and will doubt his own reality. In his head he may think "What is the point?" And will feel unmotivated in his life.
At times I will get depressed and lose motivation. I will feel overwhelmed by a negative viewpoint and feel that my life is sinking instead of rising. This can bring me into a mood that seeks comfort over challenge because any more challenge feels disheartening.
How a man can transition from "Nice guy" to framed man.
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What does it mean to be nice? It means to reassure others of their emotional doubt through kindness. The more men are conditioned to be in emotional doubt, the more they will rely on the kindness of others for their own sense of self.
Most times when a man is "nice" to other men is because niceness is a display of harmlessness. It is a way to signal to other men that he is in a submissive state that is non-threatening to their sexual selection.
A man will catch feelings for a woman. If a man is human than he will have some feelings for a woman after being in a relationship for a while. But the key thing this thread will discuss is how to keep emotional distance and low feelings for a woman.
Feelings build based on sentiment and emotional attachment through reliance on validation. A man will begin to have feelings for a woman because he begins to romanticize her apart from other women. The more special a man makes a woman in his mind, the greater the feeling.
A man may wonder what to do when he catches his woman cheating. When a woman is disloyal and betrays a man can cause him deep pain from emasculation. Men hold great pride that deserves greater respect by women. OUR PRIDE IS HOLY AND A WOMAN WHO CHEATS PROFANES THAT GLORY.
So, what should a man do when he catches his woman cheating? Let us define "Cheating" -- There are levels to this. A woman who flirts with other men is cheating on her man. She is disrespecting him by pretending she is available for sexual access. She gets off the attention.
A common issue with unframed men in their relationships with their women is that the women control the sex. These women will frequently deny and reject their men sexually with various excuses.
"I have a headache" "I am not in the mood" "I do not feel attractive tonight" -- blah blah blah. These are common phrases that women use to slide out of their responsibility to supply their men sex. These women are not sexually aroused by their men and feel burdened by sex
Why a man must be a protector/provider to his woman.
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The idea of men being protector/providers to their women may seem old fashion to modern feminist sensibilities. Feminists may say "Men have been protector/providers historical"
They use the word "Historically" because history can be dismissed. This fuels their worldview of social constructs. It allows them to think it is merely a bygone tradition with little rational meaning.