Depression comes for each man on occasion. At times a man will feel weak, lonesome and at odds with himself. Maybe he will begin to hate himself and will doubt his own reality. In his head he may think "What is the point?" And will feel unmotivated in his life.
At times I will get depressed and lose motivation. I will feel overwhelmed by a negative viewpoint and feel that my life is sinking instead of rising. This can bring me into a mood that seeks comfort over challenge because any more challenge feels disheartening.
This past week has been more depressive than normal for me. Why? The sun is fading sooner in the day, and I have not been taking care of my health like I should. I am eating more junk food and drinking alcohol. Both of these have killed my motivation for exercise.
And my thoughts have been restricted by the blue glare of my phone and laptop. Social media itself can have a negative effect on the mind when a person is working on marketing. When we stare at the blue light for long enough our conscious mind becomes narrowed to this small glow
The dopamine addiction from social media validation can drain a man of his energy. Add bad food, booze, bad sleep from booze and slip into a sedentary week has altered my own mood. My view has sunk as low as the sun in my winter country. Grey upon grey upon grey. Dull mind
With all this, I am missing an old flame in my life. My mood has sunk into disbelief and with that disbelief comes a loneliness. The less we believe in ourselves the more reliant on others we become for our sense of self.
But with all this doubt and depression there is a light shining before me. What is it? I know that I must stop eating garbage, quit drinking, get sleep and make myself exercise. I know that if my actions become positive, myself belief will rise, and my depression will fade.
This is the external to internal technique. I talk about this in depth in The Wall Speaks. The more we summon the discipline for positive actions the more our conscious mind will be reminded that we truly love ourselves.
Self-love does not come easily. It must be sought out and seized with willpower. We must beat the drum of self-belief with the drum of our self-discipline. Sweating the body is a baptism of self-love. We eat healthy and avoid alcohol because we want to prove our self-love.
I know what I must do and so my mind has hope. And that hope will guide me as I work to reach that belief. Remember, we all are battling our own demons. We all get lonesome. We all overly indulge in things we should not. We all fall into occasion disbelief.
And remember that the more depressed a man becomes, the weaker he will be to indulgence that further fuels his depressed state. In a way, a depressed man digs his hole deeper with weak willed comforts which creates his weak-willed desire for them. A vicious circle.
Join me. Push away poison and garbage. Sweat until the pain goes away. Do not mindlessly scroll on social media and lose yourself into the blue glow. Grow stronger in self-control. Eat healthy, exercise, get good sleep and read good books. And DRINK LOTS OF WATER.
How a man can transition from "Nice guy" to framed man.
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What does it mean to be nice? It means to reassure others of their emotional doubt through kindness. The more men are conditioned to be in emotional doubt, the more they will rely on the kindness of others for their own sense of self.
Most times when a man is "nice" to other men is because niceness is a display of harmlessness. It is a way to signal to other men that he is in a submissive state that is non-threatening to their sexual selection.
Why a man should not take rejection in romance personally.
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All men have been sexually rejected one time or another. A man may hope for an interaction with a woman and become hurt when it does not realize. He will feel hurt and will question himself. His self-esteem may lower because of being rejected. His confidence may shatter.
What does it mean to take rejection personally? It means to be emotionally affected by the rejection of our sense of self. And this rejection of self can cause a man to doubt his sense of attractiveness to women. This can cause him to sour in emotion and spike a feeling of pain
A man will catch feelings for a woman. If a man is human than he will have some feelings for a woman after being in a relationship for a while. But the key thing this thread will discuss is how to keep emotional distance and low feelings for a woman.
Feelings build based on sentiment and emotional attachment through reliance on validation. A man will begin to have feelings for a woman because he begins to romanticize her apart from other women. The more special a man makes a woman in his mind, the greater the feeling.
A man may wonder what to do when he catches his woman cheating. When a woman is disloyal and betrays a man can cause him deep pain from emasculation. Men hold great pride that deserves greater respect by women. OUR PRIDE IS HOLY AND A WOMAN WHO CHEATS PROFANES THAT GLORY.
So, what should a man do when he catches his woman cheating? Let us define "Cheating" -- There are levels to this. A woman who flirts with other men is cheating on her man. She is disrespecting him by pretending she is available for sexual access. She gets off the attention.
A common issue with unframed men in their relationships with their women is that the women control the sex. These women will frequently deny and reject their men sexually with various excuses.
"I have a headache" "I am not in the mood" "I do not feel attractive tonight" -- blah blah blah. These are common phrases that women use to slide out of their responsibility to supply their men sex. These women are not sexually aroused by their men and feel burdened by sex
Why a man must be a protector/provider to his woman.
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The idea of men being protector/providers to their women may seem old fashion to modern feminist sensibilities. Feminists may say "Men have been protector/providers historical"
They use the word "Historically" because history can be dismissed. This fuels their worldview of social constructs. It allows them to think it is merely a bygone tradition with little rational meaning.