So this man tells me this long convoluted story with a bunch of details. About 2 sentences in, I know what his dilemma is: his girl is pregnant, and he doesn't want to be the dad. He's seeking someone to tell him, "Nope, you're not it! Must be some other dude's kid."
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Now, this may seem uncharitable. But you talk to enough people, and you get a feel for the flow of a lot of conversations. You can begin to very accurately guess the ultimate question the person doesn't want to just come right out and ask. I've been wrong. I have even noted...
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...that in an early one of these stories I shared. But most of the time, the situation is common enough, I get it right.
This was one of those times.
He is giving me this girl's estimated conception date as given by her obgyn and the dates they had sex, and says,
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This was one of those times.
He is giving me this girl's estimated conception date as given by her obgyn and the dates they had sex, and says,
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"So I can't be the father, right? Like, obviously, these dates don't match."
Oh, my son. But they do.
I can't estimate conception dates for someone. I can't determine paternity. But I can tell someone how accurate dating often is, how it might vary, etc.
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Oh, my son. But they do.
I can't estimate conception dates for someone. I can't determine paternity. But I can tell someone how accurate dating often is, how it might vary, etc.
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They can come to their own conclusions.
He was not happy.
He just wanted her to admit she had messed around with someone else the same time she was messing around with him. But she told him she wasn't seeing anyone else. So he is left with either insisting she is liar...
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He was not happy.
He just wanted her to admit she had messed around with someone else the same time she was messing around with him. But she told him she wasn't seeing anyone else. So he is left with either insisting she is liar...
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...to get out of being a parent, or accepting the fact he is a biological father now.
I suggested submitting to a paternity test if he was so sure he was not the father.
But he didn't want to do that, either.
It's funny how quickly men balk at the idea of actually...
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I suggested submitting to a paternity test if he was so sure he was not the father.
But he didn't want to do that, either.
It's funny how quickly men balk at the idea of actually...
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...doing a paternity test. I don't suggest it to be spiteful or mean. But they are working really hard to convince me that they KNOW there is no way they are the father. As soon as a method to determine that definitively is mentioned, though, most men back up really quickly.
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I'm not sure how I feel about this or what it says about these men. I just find it an interesting observation.
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