Today marks ten years since my sister Sarah Gosling lost her life.
Sarah met Ian Hope in 2010 on Facebook and quickly they began a digital relationship. In no time they decided that Ian would ride up from Newcastle to Norfolk to collect her on his motorbike.
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Sarah met Ian Hope in 2010 on Facebook and quickly they began a digital relationship. In no time they decided that Ian would ride up from Newcastle to Norfolk to collect her on his motorbike.
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They did a ‘midnight flit’ and set up home in Newcastle - moving into the flat he’d previously shared with his former girlfriend.
Charming and ‘impulsive’ he’s convinced her that they were better off together.
She was unable to properly explain to her husband and kids...
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Charming and ‘impulsive’ he’s convinced her that they were better off together.
She was unable to properly explain to her husband and kids...
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...why she’d left. Phone calls were short and limited and when she visited them the visits were punctuated by texts and calls from Hope ‘just checking’.
By November 2010 her life had become one of walking into eggshells and trying to please him. He was checking her...
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By November 2010 her life had become one of walking into eggshells and trying to please him. He was checking her...
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...messages and where she was all the time. The signs of #coercivecontrol were all around but she didn’t know.
Her world became smaller, her contact with her Mum became short and centred around weekly online shopping orders.
Sarah’s work at a supermarket became affected...4/.
Her world became smaller, her contact with her Mum became short and centred around weekly online shopping orders.
Sarah’s work at a supermarket became affected...4/.
...with bruises and black eyes, a chipped front tooth, missing hair and a number of visits to A&E after fights with Ian Hope.
Her manager was helpful - he offered her a lockable room in his flat - he’d seen the signs of #domesticviolence before. He offered a secret bank act.
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Her manager was helpful - he offered her a lockable room in his flat - he’d seen the signs of #domesticviolence before. He offered a secret bank act.
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She’d been offered a refuge place by @womensaid in the NE.
Despite regular visits to hospital - for injuries and on one occasion for 4 days - ‘she’ decided she didn’t need their support.
After the 4 day hospital visit and support from nurses, social workers and police...
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Despite regular visits to hospital - for injuries and on one occasion for 4 days - ‘she’ decided she didn’t need their support.
After the 4 day hospital visit and support from nurses, social workers and police...
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she decided to press charges and the police helped her take him to court on a common assault charge.
On Valentines Day 2012 he was convicted of common assault and given a court order to live separately.
He moved out for one day into his late parent’s house.
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On Valentines Day 2012 he was convicted of common assault and given a court order to live separately.
He moved out for one day into his late parent’s house.
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Deciding he ‘couldn’t live without her’ he moved back into the flat.
On 22nd February he started Anger Management for his frequent rages and jealous, angry outbursts.
(Judges still think that abusers lose control. They NEVER lose control).
On 25th February 2012 they...
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On 22nd February he started Anger Management for his frequent rages and jealous, angry outbursts.
(Judges still think that abusers lose control. They NEVER lose control).
On 25th February 2012 they...
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got up and went to Morrison’s and got the shopping and some drinks.
They were drunkenly arguing and at 5:30pm were throwing each other’s stuff out of their top floor flat.
Two police women arrived with no history of the #domesticviolence because the 999 operator spelled...
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They were drunkenly arguing and at 5:30pm were throwing each other’s stuff out of their top floor flat.
Two police women arrived with no history of the #domesticviolence because the 999 operator spelled...
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...Tewkesbury (the street name) in their address wrongly.
They didn’t see the 17 previous times he had hit or punched her. The visits to A&E and the case conferences they’d been part of.
He convinced the police they would calm down and after a shared coffee they went away.
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They didn’t see the 17 previous times he had hit or punched her. The visits to A&E and the case conferences they’d been part of.
He convinced the police they would calm down and after a shared coffee they went away.
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At 8:05pm Ian Hope called 999 again and said “I’ve stabbed my girlfriend”.
When those police women returned to the scene with paramedics at 8:30 pm Sarah Gosling was lying dead next to the sofa. She had bled out.
Ian Hope’s behaviour pretty much follows the 8 stages of...
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When those police women returned to the scene with paramedics at 8:30 pm Sarah Gosling was lying dead next to the sofa. She had bled out.
Ian Hope’s behaviour pretty much follows the 8 stages of...
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.@JMoncktonSmith’s Homicide Timeline for #domesticviolence and #coercivecontrol and because she’d been isolated from her family we had no knowledge of her situation.
(Sarah and I were pretty much estranged as adults anyway aside from Christmas and birthday cards).
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(Sarah and I were pretty much estranged as adults anyway aside from Christmas and birthday cards).
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Our mum could never believe it was anything other that a ‘crime of passion’ and that Ian was a ‘good man’ who lost his temper.
She’d met him once and he was charming. Of course.
He was convicted of her murder on 29th November 2012 and is serving Life (min 17 years).
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She’d met him once and he was charming. Of course.
He was convicted of her murder on 29th November 2012 and is serving Life (min 17 years).
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It took us a while to process what had happened to Sarah and in 2014 I decided I needed to speak about what she went through, about #misogyny and #domesticviolence in schools to honour Sarah’s memory.
Thanks for listening to this thread.
We need to teach girls about...
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Thanks for listening to this thread.
We need to teach girls about...
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the red flags 🚩 in relationships, we need to teach and role-model better behaviour for boys.
We need to understand abuse and #coercivecontrol and speak about it in #PSHE and #RSE.
If you can afford to @RefugeCharity @SolaceWomensAid and @womensaid need your donations.
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We need to understand abuse and #coercivecontrol and speak about it in #PSHE and #RSE.
If you can afford to @RefugeCharity @SolaceWomensAid and @womensaid need your donations.
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Here’s more about Sarah.
Thanks for reading 🙏🏼
Thanks for reading 🙏🏼
https://twitter.com/enterprisesbox/status/1236578517904691200
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The IPCC did an enquiry into the address issues around Sarah’s death and recommended the recording of the police computer system.
It has been done.
The IPCC did an enquiry into the address issues around Sarah’s death and recommended the recording of the police computer system.
It has been done.
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