The ones that work you can build upon—they are skills. And then add more choices.
For example, some people find that breathing awareness is a way to apply the brakes when pain and emotions are becoming overwhelming.
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This is one way to self-soothe: bring calm and clarity to make the next best decision towards feeling better.
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There is also a learning opportunity: what happened for me? What are my needs? Am I meeting them?
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Other ways we self-soothe include being present, use visualisation, language and voice tone to ourselves. Practicing these skills outside of the difficult moments helps us to use them more effectively when we need them. This allows us to navigate the inevitable ups & downs.
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This is an important part of the Pain Coach Programme.
* Plan your day
* Prioritise what matters
* Periodise your time like an athlete/peak performer
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Then,
•Flexibility: there are always circumstances that need to be considered; how am I? What is my best choice now? What will I definitely be able to do within my window of tolerance?
A person emerges from many cells, atoms, molecules, processes that are not that person and don’t have person-ness.
A car has wheels, doors, engine bits, seats, none of which have the properties of a car. They are just those things.
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Of course we are much more than a car because we have an aliveness and consciousness—something it is like to be you. A stream of contents that forms that experience.
Then there’s the story. What we tell ourselves: What has happened? What it means? What’s the cause? The future? All are highly convincing yet often wrong.
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The misunderstanding of pain could be the most important reason why persistent pain has become a leading global health burden & why treatment outcomes are so poor.
With chronic conditions such as persistent pain, fibromyalgia, CFS, ME and more recently Long Covid, people are still dismissed when their tests show nothing of note.
The idea that a negative test (or tests) means that there is nothing wrong is ignoring the plain fact that there is something wrong.
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The person has just explained how they are feeling. Have they been heard? Many haven’t and that is unacceptable. Even some doctors have not been believed by other doctors!