I'm willing to wager that I'm not the only Autistic that's feeling increased anxiety levels as April approaches.
Autism Acceptance Month is a wild ride. And here's some reasons why: 🧵
1) Autism Acceptance/Awareness Month was not created for Autistics. It was a day, week, month, whatever that was originally designed by and for those who "speak for" Autistics.
It's a whole month during which Autistics have to fight to have our own experiences centered.
2) The puzzle piece is everywhere, and Autistics are expected to be happy about it!
The puzzle piece is the infantile symbol originally used by Autism Speaks, a problematic organization that paints Autism as a tragedy. Many Autistics don't relate to the idea that we're a puzzle.
Autistics can often hear the sounds of electrical appliances that others' tune out.
It is not in our imagination.
While allistic individuals may hear electrical sounds when someone points them out, they can generally ignore the sounds. This is due to habituation, or the physiological process of diminishing our responses to stimuli. Autistics, however, don't usually habituate in the same way.
The non-stop din of electrical appliances may remain a backdrop of all we do. For auditorily-sensitive autistics, these sounds can cause migraines, irritability, as well as aches and pains. We may become accustomed to the pain, but we do not become desensitized to the noise.
Punishing an autistic person for a meltdown will not prevent a future meltdown.
Demanding answers for an autistic person's meltdown immediately after the crisis can cause another meltdown.
As a kid and as an adult, I have often been made to feel at fault for my meltdowns. This led me to have cycles of meltdowns, days in a row, because my fear of upsetting people with my meltdowns would compound my other meltdown triggers.
Autistics need understanding and support after meltdowns, not punishment. We need help making a plan, understanding our triggers, and finding supportive spaces. We do not need more shaming.
Have you ever been given two options by a non-autistic, and you choose an option, and then you're told, "No, you should pick the other option."
This almost always causes me to meltdown and cry.
Why was I presented with two options in the first place?
I'll give two examples:
Example #1: I purchased a dress from a small business. I was told I could provide 19 measurments or 3 measurements. I requested the 3 measurments option. I was then badgered for two days that I should not go with that option. I broke down in tears.
Example #2: A long time ago (pre-Autism Dx), I was in a mental health facility. I was asked if I would like treatment for anxiety OR depression. I requested treatment for anxiety. I was told that if I didn't comply with treatment for depression, I could not leave the facility.