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@asuph

Mar 23

A brief🧵about how patriarchy hurts men too, especially men who don't fit its stereotypes.

#feminism #genderequity #genderbiases #partiarchy

Most people (both men/women) don't seem to get it that some men are more at peace with the rhythms of everyday domestic life. We need to stop looking at it as an emasculation of a man, just as we shouldn't look at a woman prioritizing career as missing a "womanly" instinct. 1/

Through the archaic ideas of what a man/woman should be, we've trapped some (many?) men into roles they positively hate, just as we've trapped (and this percentage is much larger than the former case, I'm sure) many women in domestic roles, their temperament is not suited for. 2/

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Amit Kahi-pun-kar 📕🎷☕ 🍫👨‍🍳📺🎬

@asuph

Mar 7

https://twitter.com/gauravsabnis/status/1500797827227734016

As someone raised in a Brahmnical (not just Brahmin) family, I relate so much with this thread. I came to Ambedkar through a long and torturous route -- having internalized many of the casteist prejudices very common in this community. 1/

https://twitter.com/gauravsabnis/status/1500797827227734016

Apart from the usual anti-reservation indoctrination, dismissal of mass conversions out of Hindu fold as "nav-buddha phenomenon", quite pejoratively, one of the most ironic things about this community is the belief in their own "modernism". I'm not even kidding. 2/

An average Maharashtrian Brahmin believes that they (I can't say we anymore, tho I have to, in all fairness, share the blame) are the most "reformed" of all castes, and that they "don't see caste". They will, as example, bring up some inter-caste marriage in extended family. 3/

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@asuph

Mar 6

My kid was less than a year old then. I sometimes feel many men miss out on these early moments of absolute bliss because they assume child-rearing is a predominantly mother's job.

Yes, the bigger problem with it is the asymmetric burden that it places on the new mothers, but I'm going to talk to the men about what some of *them* are missing out on. I want to share a tiring but rewarding period of my life, as a hands-on father.

The Indian tradition of sending a mother to be to her parents home for first delivery, for instance, denies many fathers the pleasure of holding their newborn baby, many times. Men sometimes don't even see their babies for week/months (thankfully changing).

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@asuph

Jan 29

In the recent past, I've learned from two extremely independent, and mentally strong women, that they have this inferiority complex/imposter's syndrome thanks to the people around them -- family and friends, well-meaning, and good people. 1/

Our society doesn't validate achievements of women as much as it validates achievements of men -- even close friends/relatives, who, sometimes unconsciously, end up creating this sense of "I'm not good enough" (even for the partners who love them) or "I don't belong here" 2/

The point is, many of us, especially the men, do not realize that this is happening. That women around us, women we care about, women we look up to, are going through these micro-crises, and that we may be part of the culture that brought them on. 3/

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@asuph

Oct 22, 2021

Warning: A long, rambling🧵.

Back in my teens, I read Sunita Deshpande's (Marathi) book Aahe Manohar Tari

Loosely translated as: it's all pleasant but) from a line of a poem that end with "gamate udaas" (feels sad).

It was an important book in many ways.

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Sunita Deshpande was the wife of P. L. Deshpande -- Maharasthra's much loved writer, and a multi-talented person. He was primarily a humorist, but an astute observer of human traits and frailties. The book, an autobiography, generated a lot of controversy (more later).

2/

To introduce Sunita tai as "wife" of someone is an injustice to her, but for many, that's how they know her. She was a firebrand woman, independent thinker, outspoken, and courageous. She joined freedom struggle when she was 17 yo.

[Photo of her from her youth]

3/

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Amit Kahi-pun-kar 📕🎷☕ 🍫👨‍🍳📺🎬

@asuph

Oct 21, 2021

"[O]ften inquisitors create heretics. [...] Inquisitors repress the heretical putrefaction so vehemently that many are driven, to share in it, in their hatred for the judges."

-Umberto Eco, The Name of the Rose.

I dearly miss #UmbertoEco with his clinical insights on everything, from religion/belief to fascism. The quote above also reminded me of Arthur Koestler's Darkness at Noon, and in turn the Stalinist purges it was based on. A must read book for our times, I you ask me.

It's ironic that Stalin, the militant atheist, used methods that the Spanish Inquisition would have been proud of, to break down dissidents, on random pretenses, just like the former. And although the scale of those two is probably incomparable to other such instances ...

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