Mini-Rant About The Phrase "Work-Life Balance," Which I Didn't Know I Felt So Strongly About Until Just Now.
The phrase "work-life balance" is a hallmark of the problem we have with authenticity — how can we be authentic leaders if the very language we use to talk about our lives is falsely compartmentalized?
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There’s not (or at least there should be) a Work Mike and a Personal Mike. There's just one Mike. @michaelkasdan
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If there is, we are leaving each aspect with half of ourselves. And damaging ourselves all the while. This leads to stress, bad leadership models and modeling, and strained relationships and expectations and poor performance either at home, at work, or both.
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Aligning those two things - and fostering a Culture that does that - instead of tending to them separately and independently (which is literally *impossible* to do well!) is a big part of what I want to do with "Lawyering While Human."
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And it’s not even really about lawyering. It’s just . . . While Human.
I founded Lawyering While Human in January of 2022. I’d always wanted to be the Chief Enthusiasm Officer of something –but for some reason CEOs never seemed to want to let me take that title– so when I started @law_while_human, I appointed myself Chief Enthusiasm Officer too.
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The story of Lawyering While Human began, in a way, in 2016. A friend of mine, let’s call him Kevin (because his name is Kevin Cranman), was involved with an IP law conference (the In-House Innovates: East Conference) that had lost their keynote speaker at the last minute.
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Kevin was one of my few “work friends” who knew that one of my side “passion projects” outside of work, which I didn’t really talk about in work/law circles, was as a writer and editor for a website called The Good Men Project (@GoodMenProject).
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The parallels between dominance-based traditional masculinity (AKA “toxic” or Patriarchal masculinity or “the Man Box’) & traditional law firm culture, the internalized lawyer identity, & law firm lawyer’s resulting poor mental health & well-being.
A discussion.
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I have been a law firm lawyer for over two decades, and have worked in Big Law, boutique specialty firms, and medium sized law firms.
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For the last 10 years or so, I’ve also been an Editor, Writer, and Director of Special Projects for @GoodMenProject.
During that time, I’ve had the opportunity to study and write about all aspects of dominance-based masculinity: