.Aight, I’m about to tweet some of my thoughts on #youpeoplenetflix into the abyss lol
My thoughts are fair game for discussion, so feel free to chime in! And even if we think differently about the movie, I still genuinely love you… not even kidding ☺️
Here we go: a 🧵
.Let me start with what some of my presuppositions were going into watching #youpeoplenetflix:
A) It’s a comedy and comedies often inherently lack nuance in order to… be funny. So, I knew it would lack most of the gray area needed for any discussion of cross-racial relations.
.B) I have never liked #KenyaBarris’ #Blackish because it often boldly takes on comedically what (I think) should really never be absent of nuance and so… I didn’t have much faith that what should be handled with care in #YouPeopleNetflix would be… handled with care either.
.C) This one’s about climax in comedic screenwriting:
Y’all… there’s only but SO many climaxes Barris could’ve written for #YouPeopleNetflix. Did we REALLY think it wasn’t gonna involve Amira spending way too much emotional labor to educate her racist, white mother in law?
.D) I came into #YouPeopleNetflix with the same energy our collective auntie #IssaRae gave us at the ‘17 Emmys:
.Okay, so with ALL of that said, here’s where #YouPeopleNetflix surprised me a little bit:
I did NOT expect the level of satire Barris gave us.
I mean… to have #JuliaLouisDreyfus skillfully playing up the vices of pseudo-woke white people for the whole movie? **chef’s kiss**
.I also didn’t expect the consistently overt way Ezra disapproved of his mother’s racism in #YouPeopleNetflix. I expected Barris to back down from those moments but we caught some gems (e.g., Amira’s first time meeting the parents, alone with his mom in the kitchen).
.(I keep only mentioning Barris when Jonah Hill co-wrote #YouPeopleNetflix— my bad, y’all!)
There were some things Barris & Hill did with Akbar’s character that I didn’t like (I’m starting to wonder if maybe Barris has a thing with making father figures a bit grotesque🤔).
.For one, I worry that Barris/ Hill choosing to make Akbar a nearly “hateful” Muslim in #YouPeopleNetflix actually caricaturizes Islam…
and we truly don’t need anymore of that in cinema.
But, again— it’s comedy, so… I get why they did it 🤷🏽♀️
.And secondly, (and in usual Barris fashion), Akbar’s emotional intelligence is woefully absent in #YouPeopleNetflix.
I get why Barris/Hill used Akbar’s heavy-handedness to create tension in the storyline, but I’m just… tired of seeing the trope of the emotionally-stunted dad🤷🏽♀️
it’s going to be a non-nuanced, comedy about cross-racial family dynamics that’s only funny because it eagerly exaggerates how destructive white wokeness can actually be (and often is).
.But my humble invitation would be that folks would NOT watch #YouPeopleNetflix expecting to see cross-racial marriage done in a way that effectively protects the minoritized member of the couple (i.e., Amira) from further racial trauma.
.Also: even though #YouPeopleNetflix tries to flatten the power dynamics between Amira & Ezra’s families in order to play up the comedy,
that’s make-believe 😌
Minoritized members of cross-racial couples are often retraumatized while merging into the dominant-cultured family.
.Ultimately, I got some good chuckles here ‘n there out of #YouPeopleNetflix ‘cuz Eddie, Nia, Jonah, & Julie Louis-Dreyfus are good at what they do on screen…
…and ‘cuz I’m Black and sometimes I have to laugh to keep from crying about what white wokeness actually does to us🫣
Quick 🧵: Now that the anecdotes and the sciences have aligned to confirm that #WhiteSupremacy is ✨in fact✨ an #embodied experience,
I’ve been revisiting my own hesitancies around blindly trusting all-White, all-cisgendered male leadership teams of humanitarian organizations.
2/5 I’m reminded that it takes muscle memory— not mere thinking— to see issues of inequity when they pop up in systems.
When you’ve lived in a body that’s so rarely minoritized/ marginalized (i.e., White and cisgendered male), it’s easy and common for you to overlook inequity.
3/5 This is uncomfortable to hear, but it’s true.
We’re learning more and more that #WhiteSupremacy is not— at its core— a matter of ideas.
It’s a matter of the patterned responses to the “Other” that are embodied in folks’ core beliefs, emotions and knee-jerk social reactions.
🧵: There are many reasons why I think adding #contemplativePractices to Christianity is important.
But the main one is that the reason why we sin is often less about what we actively do
and more about the precursors to sin that we’re not self-aware enough to detect.
1/14
.Now, you may be wincing at the word "sin" and I think that's fair (I wrestle with it myself).
But for the sake of this 🧵, "sin" describes behavior that harms/dishonors the dignity of another person according to God's perfect imagination for wholeness between all things.
2/14
.So much of the sin or 'falling-short-of-God's-perfect-imagination-for-cosmic-wholeness' that we do
happens because we're unfamiliar with the sensations within ourselves that precede the harm we do to others.
the more I’ve realized that the lies we’re told by society about #individualism, rationalism and human agency/choice have DEEPLY confused us about
why we suffer and how we heal.
A quick 🧵
.We desperately want to believe that we make our own choices based on our own logic.
But #neuroscience is teaching us that our decision-making is SIGNIFICANTLY determined by our affective/emotional state and the ways we’ve been socialized over time.
2/7
.Our affective/emotional states are deeply impacted by how relationally safe we feel within our social context up to and in a given moment.
In other words, the extent to which we feel physically safe and socially accepted affects what we CHOOSE and what we DO.
3/7
.When we begin thinking similarly to the friends of the main person speaking, it’s often because we ourselves have experienced a lack of safety or betrayal in groups… and often respectively.
As a result, we’ve had to repetitively stay in a self-protective stance in groups.
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.When we’re constantly put in situations where we need to be self-protective, that trauma response runs a higher risk of becoming a trait:
a way of behaving/being that we STAY in even when we don’t have to.
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