A thread on suicide prevention. I will try to give simple tips to help you prevent suicide without feeling overwhelmed. Everyone can help.
1. All of us feel suicidal at times. Nobody is immune. If you haven't felt it so far, give life a chance.
2. As of now, we don't know precisely what causes final act of suicide. People reach that point through various pathways.
3. One thing is sure, loneliness and hopelessness contribute a lot to final stage.
4. So, whenever you realise that your friend, acquaintance, lover, student, neighbour, relative, is avoiding people , you should ask if they are okay.
5. If you are wondering about their suicidal thoughts, ask.
Asking is the best way to help.
You will NOT be inducing suicide by asking.
6. Offer to talk, brew a cup of tea/coffee/hot meal.
Don't advice. Just hear them out. At the end, thank them for trusting you with all the information, thoughts and feelings.
7. Ask what you can do to help them feel better. It is a simple question but a powerful one at the end of patient and helpful listening.
8. Keep in touch.
9. If you feel overwhelmed, don't be afraid of saying that (it is so much to experience, just by listening it is overwhelming me, i don't know how you brave it all. Tell me how do you cope with this?)
10. When you feel worried about their safety, call a helpline. All cities have suicide prevention helplines.
11. Lastly, remember, company and patient listening are most powerful tools to prevent suicide.
A supportive hand in hand and a patient ear goes a long long way.
Get professional help whenever it crosses your desire to help.
#Hijab
As a father of two young adults, I wanted to know their opinion about ongoing hijab issue.
What I heard from them was a great relief to me as a father.
They came to a conclusion that it is a multilayered question so answer changes
according to the specific question you decide to solve. And answers may even appear contradictory to each other. Some levels - 1. Who should decide what people choose to wear? 2. At what age do people become independent adults? 3. Is religion forced on children?
4. How does our constitution protect kids from religious compulsions of family (e.g. anti blood products views of certain sects)? 5. Do we live a segregated country? Is it inevitable? 6. How do children (majority and minority) look at other children practicing their religion?
Myths - 1. Family conditions push boys to violence in "good" families 2. Violent adolescents need help from counsellors and psychiatrists and not be reported to police 3. If mother uses corporal punishment on a child, he is somehow justified in beating her up later
4. Juveniles get away with "anything". Law does not get involved at all.
When you feel like giving advice to kids, few things may help - 1. Don't. Yes. You read it right. Don't give advice. Because that is all they receive all the time. They have no way to know that your advice is the one to follow. 2. You actually walking the talk MAY help. contd..
But don't count too much on it. As there are literally millions at your level of success in life. 3. Children are acutely aware of how time changes and requirements change so your advice may seem (justifyably) outdated.
4. They look around and live in a world created, maintained and ruled by adults. Does it look awesome? 5. They see you all the time and know you better than you do yourself. And they are harsh judges.
So unless a child really begs for advice, don't give.
Young people appearing for high intensity entrance exams like NEET, JEE, NATA, KVPY need mental health help sometimes.
I have worked with them since last 20 years as their psychiatrist and mental coach.
Here is what I have seen over 2 decades of work - #Thread
1. Exams are getting more competitive each year and require more work from "above average" students 2. A small fraction at top e.g. 700+ NEET score, top 200 of JEE, etc are a class apart. They are gifted with 🧠 that work very differently.
They have intuitive understanding of subject matter, they make connections easily, they have inhuman ability to focus for a few hours (4-6 per day) and do 20 hours worth of work in that time. They just need teacher to point to a 🎯 and they get it.
Their work is effortless
#Thread
This session was arranged by Sneh NGO. They work with underprivileged families. Prevention, early detection and treatment of mal-nutrition is a large part of their work.
About 120 parents participated in the session. 20 min of talk and 40min Q&A.
Our aim was to sensitize parents to mental health issues early on in child's life and give them practical, usable and scientifically sound tips.
Background of participants - all in their 20s, some in early 30s. 1or 2 child families, single room residence. Electricity, water and toilet at a premium.
some parents leave their children alone at home and go to work. Neighbors keep an eye on such kids.