1-Smile
2-Good posture
3-Strong eye contact
4-Fluid hand gestures
5-Let’s others talk more
6-Listens & relates
7-Comfortable Touching people
8-Walk with a swagger
9-Speaks at slower pace
10-Keeps calm under criticism
[ QUICK THREAD ]
1-Smile
How do you feel when you see someone that looks angry?
It’s a downer
No one will want to interact with you if you look pissed all of the time, it’s just negative energy
Plus, smiling is a sign of confidence and boosts others moods
2-Good posture
Don’t walk Into any social setting looking like the hunchback
It’s weak and makes you look low energy
Plus, you’re displaying low status with weak posture
Stand up straight with your chin up & chest out like a god
Walk like you’re proud of yourself
3- Strong eye contact
Ever shake someone’s hand & their eyes are either looking down or darting?
It’s weak & you probably won’t trust them
Or in conversation?
Eye contact while talking means you’re listening and paying *Attention*
Strong eye contact displays confidence
4-Fluid hand gestures
Use your hands to talk & express your points
Don’t stand there like a robot
Using the hands can make what you’re talking about exciting
It can also be used to emphasize
Exciting = positive emotion
Remember, making people FEEL is what’s important
5-Let others talk more
What do people love to hear?
The sound of their own voice
People care more about themselves, so make them feel good by paying attention to them & by letting them talk about themselves
Plus, people will give more information to talk about with them
6-Listen & relate
This is the key to building comfort with people
Let them talk—> then listen & relate to them
Pay attention to them
Repeat back what they say
Nod your head yes
And relate to them with your own experiences or stories
7-Comfortable touching people
Touching people builds comfort
While talking, lightly touch the shoulder or elbow when making a joke or a point
People feel comfortable w/ you the more you touch
Touch = Language
Non verbal communication
Translating how you feel & emotions
8- Walk with a swagger
Yes, walk into the social setting like YOU ARE A GOD
Yes, also be conscious of your posture and facial expressions
Stroll in with a slow, confident walk that says you’re a billionaire that doesn’t take any sh*t
People will notice and be drawn to u
9-Speak slower
Listen, no one will take you seriously if you spouting and ranting off information at the speed of light
-People won’t understand you
-You’ll seem to nervous
Take brief pauses
Speak slower and emphasize points
This will make you seem more confident
10-Keep calm under criticism
People will break your balls and try to poke fun at you in social settings
You need to remain calm, especially if what they’re saying is true
Self deprecate and poke some fun at yourself (Not too much)
Agree, amplify & exaggerate what they say
This will make you seem cool and collected with a good sense of humor
You will appear relaxed and not too serious
People like being around laid back those that go with the flow
DO NOT REACT NEGATIVELY to what they say
It will make you look emotionally weak
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