Thread by @ArmaniTalks

You don't want to be the person that is liked by everyone.

Don't even try.

You'll feel heavy tension when you put on an act.

And you'll feel worse when you STILL see people disliking you even after you were trying to be liked by everyone.

Be real & attract the real ones.

'Why do so many people try to be liked?'

Because of uncertainty.

'Huh??'

Let me explain....👇

Life is broken down into 2 parts:

-Black & White

-Gray

Black & white are frameworks that you can easily follow.

Gray is more difficult.

'Examples bro?'

Sure.

-Black & white: Mathematics

2 + 2 = 4

-Gray: Human nature

emotions, ego, vanity

Dealing with humans is tough because it is a Gray area.

And typically with gray areas, you have a shit ton of uncertainty.

Your uncertainty causes you to make moves that are not in your best interest.

'So what do I do??'

You add black & white frameworks to the gray.

That's how you turn uncertainty into certainty.

A few years ago, I really cared about opinions.

This made me become super nice.

Thought being nice would lead me to be accepted.

Told people what they wanted to hear.

'Well were you accepted?'

Nah.

I still had people who disliked me.

What??? I thought if I was on my best behavior others would like me.

But no... humans are gray.

So all this work for nothing?

I changed my strategy.

Fuck them.

I'm going to focus on me.

Going to be my real self.

'Did everyone like you now??'

Nope.

But I liked me.

I still had haters.

But this time I had haters while being me, not a fake ass dude

At that point, I got my eureka moment.

No matter what you do, you will always be hated.

But on the contrary, you will also be loved.

Be hated for who you are or for who you aren't?

Choice is a no brainer.

Black & White: Mathematics: 2+2 = 4

Black & White: Human Nature: You will never be loved or hated by everyone.

Once I was able to add a Black & White framework to the Gray of Human nature, the uncertainty melted away.

When that happened, the tension melted away.

When tension melts, you spend less time in your head worry about what to say.

And more time in your body being expressive.

The right people can just sense the energy.

They will be magnetized to you.

'What about the ones I repel?'

Let them repel.

They are doing the weeding out process for you.

Sound like a win if you ask me.

You only want loyal people in your squad.

When you have an abundance mentality towards people, you are grateful for the ones who leave.

Remember that.

I say all that to say this:

1. Become a winner.
2. Attract winners.
3. Let the losers repel.

Your future self will thank you.

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