"WhY DiDnT YoU RePoRt It"
As a traumatized 16 year old, I was told (probably truthfully) by my rape counsellor -
"the police will ask you questions in a way that will make you feel like you're lying, I don't think you're robust enough for that"
independent.co.uk/news/uk/crime/…
As a traumatized 16 year old, I was told (probably truthfully) by my rape counsellor -
"the police will ask you questions in a way that will make you feel like you're lying, I don't think you're robust enough for that"
independent.co.uk/news/uk/crime/…
I did report it, 12 years later. A document resurfaced from my visit to A&E the morning after the incident occured. The nurse asked me if it was consensual.
Consensual, to me, as a sexually naive 16 yr old meant - did you fight him with everything you had? Not, did you say no?
Consensual, to me, as a sexually naive 16 yr old meant - did you fight him with everything you had? Not, did you say no?
My understanding, at 16, of the word consensual (or lack of) is important as 12 years later it undermined my report.
Had the nurse asked - 'did you say no' I would have given a different answer. I'm not blaming her, she was kind, I remember seeing tears rolling down her face
Had the nurse asked - 'did you say no' I would have given a different answer. I'm not blaming her, she was kind, I remember seeing tears rolling down her face
I had just turned 16 he was AT LEAST twice my age. The nurse who saw me wrote that I was "notably in a clear state of distress" but when she asked if it was consensual my answer was yes. My understanding of the word was limited & I didn't physically fight him. So it was my fault.
Flash forward 12 years, someone tries to book into the restaurant I work at with the EXACT same first and second name.
I fell apart at work, had a panic attack and took some time off to deal with and report the incident.
It seemed hopeful until the document surfaced...
I fell apart at work, had a panic attack and took some time off to deal with and report the incident.
It seemed hopeful until the document surfaced...
I fully understand what happened I my case but as far as I'm aware statistically it goes down as "unfounded" which I believe is part of the false rape claims....
To me, other than my rapist being taken in for questioning, I did more harm by reporting it than good.
To me, other than my rapist being taken in for questioning, I did more harm by reporting it than good.
That's why I didn't report it...
That's why education on consent is important....
That's why grooming needs to be called out for what it is....
I hate revisiting this but it's a huge part of my history and articles like this remind me how much work there is still to be done.
That's why education on consent is important....
That's why grooming needs to be called out for what it is....
I hate revisiting this but it's a huge part of my history and articles like this remind me how much work there is still to be done.
That is why I will continue to fight against ANYTHING that feeds into rape culture.
Whether it comes in the form of lesbians being coerced/bullied into including 'lady dick' in their dating pools
Whether it comes in the form of lesbians being coerced/bullied into including 'lady dick' in their dating pools
Or this HORRIFIC scene from a Hollywood movie. In the first 43 seconds of the clip -
SHE SAYS NO FIVE TIMES.
She says "get off me"
She says "stop it"
Her dress is ripped, she screams, her body is exposed & then suddenly ofc she has a change of heart.
SHE SAYS NO FIVE TIMES.
She says "get off me"
She says "stop it"
Her dress is ripped, she screams, her body is exposed & then suddenly ofc she has a change of heart.
Rape culture is everywhere and all I see is it taking different forms and getting worse.
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