1. Hello and welcome! It’s episode 314 of #MrMrsBetterHalf. Mr and Mrs BetterHalf is designed to strengthen marriages & relationships that will lead to marriage, with wisdom from God's Word. 
2. This month at The Elevation Church, we are discussing Spice – a relationship series for singles and married couples. Priority is the first spice in a wholesome relationship, so our discussion today is “Make Me Your Priority”. #MrMrsBetterHalf
3. I’ll be sharing some nuggets from the service for your benefit. Relationships typically have a lot of dynamics and successful ones prioritize appropriately and minimalize friction between the partners. #MrMrsBetterHalf
4. A lot of relationship issues stem from a lack of appropriately defined priorities. When a person feels unappreciated, under-valued or of less priority, they are bound to react to the situation. #MrMrsBetterHalf
5. God didn't create man for isolation but for connection. In our journey of life, we can never become better in isolation. We get better as we connect with one another. So, it's crucial that your mate values you to be able to make the best of your relationship. #MrMrsBetterHalf
6. One of the most vital connections we humans can have is a good marriage. ‘Make me feel important’ is the concept of one flesh. You would naturally prioritize yourself and your needs. #MrMrsBetterHalf
7. So if you see your husband or wife as same flesh as you, you would prioritize them and their needs too. You would want them to be happy and fulfilled. You wouldn’t think they are asking for too much for wanting you to treat them better. #MrMrsBetterHalf
8. For you to have a blossoming marriage, your relationship has to be sweet and spicy. When you think about relationships as a delicacy that requires different ingredients and spices, you’d realize that priority is a very important spice. #MrMrsBetterHalf
9. Actually, it is the first spice to a loving relationship. It is the base on which everything else is added. Do you make your spouse your priority? Do you make them feel important? #MrMrsBetterHalf
10. To understand the divine concept of marriage and priorities, we must go to the Bible. Genesis 2:24 says “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh”. #MrMrsBetterHalf
11. Leaving your father and mother goes beyond your biological parents – it also speaks to authority figures. It does not mean you won’t have a relationship with them anymore, it means that the order of priority has to change. #MrMrsBetterHalf
12. Your husband or wife becomes your Number 1 after God once you get married. Your parents can advise you but they should not be dictating what goes on in your home if you have truly left them. #MrMrsBetterHalf
13. Cleaving to your spouse and becoming one flesh speaks directly to priority – who do you share your best and worst moments with first? If you are one with your spouse, they will be the one you share things with. #MrMrsBetterHalf
14. It should come as naturally as speaking to yourself. No fear of judgment, no destructive criticism because you both are on the same team. #MrMrsBetterHalf
15. When you get into marriage, you must be able to relinquish the priorities you have given to other persons or things aside from your partner. Love begins with priority. #MrMrsBetterHalf
16. Speaking of hierarchy for priority – it is God, your spouse, your children (if any), purpose or calling in life, extended family and close friends, work and career, hobbies and other interests and so on. #MrMrsBetterHalf
17. Badly set priorities destroy relationships and marriages. That you are the breadwinner does not mean you should relinquish your spouse or the value they bring to the union. Value isn’t only monetary. #MrMrsBetterHalf
18. There's no fulfilment in bringing a paycheck home to a marriage that has failed. Make a list of the things you have prioritised about your spouse and choose to repent. #MrMrsBetterHalf
19. Ask yourself what you will give up to meet your partner’s needs and prioritize them. Our children are more important than almost everything in our lives, but they are not as important as God or our marriage. #MrMrsBetterHalf
20. We have to prioritize our relationship and partner over any other relationship or partner we might have had. Some people value their exes more than their wives or husbands – don’t be like that! #MrMrsBetterHalf
21. Practising prioritizing is important even when dating. As singles, you must be willing to practice prioritizing and focusing on one relationship. When you start to double date, something is wrong. #MrMrsBetterHalf
22. Heal before you deal so that you can focus and have clarity. When it comes to choosing a life partner, don't underestimate the importance of conviction, divine signals, and hearing from God. #MrMrsBetterHalf
23. Now, let us talk about what to prioritize when spicing up your relationship: (a) In spicing up your relationship, you need to prioritize communication and giving attention. Communication is proof of life in any relationship. #MrMrsBetterHalf
24. Watch out for the attention/lack of attention that you get. When you're starved of attention, communicate it. Singles - if you're in a relationship with someone who seems not to have time for you or doesn’t prioritize your relationship, it's a huge red flag. #MrMrsBetterHalf
25. (b) Anticipate each other's needs. It shouldn’t be about what you want all the time. Don’t be a receiver that never gives. Your partner needs love, attention and affirmation too. They also need you to prioritize them. #MrMrsBetterHalf
26. (c) In spicing up your relationship, there must be romance. Romance for singles could be opening the door, writing nice and funny notes. But for couples, it is more than that. Do something different. #MrMrsBetterHalf
27. Watch out for distractions. Examples of competing distractions for women would include children and other interests within the home, career, fashion, friends, social media, prayer meetings. #MrMrsBetterHalf
28. For men, it could be career, business, sports, socials, church and so on. Couples, ask your partner (and have them ask you too) – “How important am I to you compared to other people and things in your life?” #MrMrsBetterHalf
29. For the unmarried: What are ur current priorities? Are they aiding relational success? How're u preparing to leave so u can cleave? We all want happy marriages, do remember that a happy marriage is a product of 2 happy people doing their best to make it work. #MrMrsBetterHalf
30. To listen to the full message, please visit our YouTube channel here - youtube.com/channel/UCB48L… #MrMrsBetterHalf
31. To catch up on last week's discussion, ‘Dealing with a breakup’. Get it here wakelet.com/wake/dE2lMzL7f… if you missed it. #MrMrsBetterHalf
32. I hope this has been helpful to you. I will be back next week with another topic. Until then, thanks for following and RTing. May your marriages and relationships be sweet! #MrMrsBetterHalf
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