While on a hop-on hop-off tour of the city of San Fransisco, I learned about Emperor Norton.
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Norton was a 19th century Englishman who lost all his money, and subsequently his mental faculties, on Peruvian rice trade. He re-emerged after some years and declared himself as Norton I, Emperor of the United States.
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He gave imperial proclamations and had eccentric ways of living and appearance. But people humored him. Some treated his words with deference, issued currency in his name.
He died on the streets. Yet, his funeral was attended by 30,000 residents of the city.
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What struck me was the ability of SF to celebrate failure. San Francisco-Oakland Bay bridge and Transbay tube were built on lines of his imperial proclamations.
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It was befitting that city that was the nursery for some of the world’s fantastic innovations should also celebrate the failures that line the journey.
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India, conversely, has had a poor relationship with failure. Failure is demonized. Children are protected from failure and reprimanded for every stumble. Not having a relationship work is looked down upon. Not finding a high paying job is looked down upon.
‘A 50-year old man and his son are driving down the Mass. Pike when they meet with an accident.
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They are rushed to the hospital. The chief surgeon, who was the only one on duty at the time, looked at the bodies and exclaimed – “I can’t operate; he is my son.” A hospital convention prevented doctors to operate on immediate relatives.’
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“What do you think is going on here?” The professor asked this #culturally#diverse class.
Here’s the thing about meeting people after many many years: they are anchored to a version of you that may no longer define you. They are convinced that you owe it to them to follow-through on your earlier #life plans.
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I met an ex-colleague after more than half-a-decade. It was like any such meeting. Fake warmth to masquerade stocktaking about who did better in the lost time. Offering pleasantries only enough to veil judging and pontificating. And then banter.
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“Dude, howsoever you want to frame it, you’ve done a #career suicide. I am sure you know it but won’t care to admit.”
“The only thing I know for sure is what I have been able to avoid: suicide by career.”
“Well, at least you’ve still got your defensive reasoning skills.”
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