Thread by @AishaYesufu

I married a man not a little boy playing at being a man. My husband is the most practising feminist that I know. We have the same values and that makes things extremely easy. We have mutual respect for each other. He doesn't see me as handler of the house, he sees us as handlers

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My husband constantly asks how can he make things easy for me and I also do the same for him. Instead of assigned roles we do that which is our strength.
I don't know how the cooking gas in my house gets replaced. He didn't know when the kids(now young adults) wrote their exams

Before we got married my husband told me I had to be financially independent. He believes a woman must have total control of her life.

In 2014 someone asked him why he allowed me do BBOG, he asked the person if his daughter was amongst those abducted would he not want me to speak for him? The man was silent.

My husband is my teacher, my mentor and number one fan. He takes pride in my achievements and has always told me the world would reckon with me.
He wrote me this letter in 2000. 20 years ago!

To be frank, I am an ajebo wife. Everything is done for me. My husband has always made life easy for me.

As a young couple with only our son who had just started nursery school (2001) my husband in the morning got our son ready for school, made his breakfast and take him to school while I pick him in the afternoon when school closed. I am not a morning person. My husband is.

Myself and my husband have lived our marital life not based on what roles society defined for our respective genders but what each of us had the strength to do. We have been able to complement each other.
That is what has worked for us!