One of the greatest lies the religious were sold, is that if you're "good", bad things won't happen to you. As a matter of fact, as long as you're human, life will happen to you. As long as you try to do things right, those who prefer the status quo will fight you.
I know too many people who went "bad" because they felt betrayed by God. They keep saying, "After all, I did things right and look what happened to me. Now, I'm going to do all the bad things I didn't do earlier in life."
First, you can't "outbad" the professional bad guys. Chances are you'll simply end up destroying your soul and wrecking what's left of your life.
Second, it's okay to heal. Its okay to disappear for a while. Don't make decisions that don't need to be made while hurting. Take your time. Let your eye clear.
And remember, what you need while hurting is not necessarily what you need for the future. Find what you need now but be fluid. Don't make permanent decisions during a temporary pain.
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FOCUS - WHAT IS HAPPENING AND WHY YOU MUST SIEZE THE MEDIA NARRATIVE OF #ENDSARS NOW!
Dear young Nigerians, it's time to FOCUS. Evil has crossed the doorway of the #EndSars protests and is now operating amidst the smoke of confusion and the cacophony of discordant voices. Listen!
The protests were peaceful. Your organisational skills were unparalleled. Your cause is still just and right. In exchange for your bravery & idealism, you were rewarded with carnage, oppression & betrayal. Then, the hoodlums crept in. Divisive ethnic & religious forces walked in.
You are the kind one. The benevolent King. The Almighty who chooses to call us siblings and friends not servants. The Blessed one who always comes with healing in his wings. ❤️
May those who choose evil perish for their wickedness. May the oppressors meet with steely justice. May those who mock you and place their knees on the necks of your children be met with sudden fiery judgment.
I am learning to call a spade, a spade even when I run the risk of being told, "Your wahala is too much."
If I pay for service, I deserve service. If I begin a business relationship with kindness, respect and courtesy and you prove incompetent, I'm well within my rights to "change it for you".
I have never met a successful & legitimate business or manager who doesn't use checklists and reminders. "I forgot" is simply not in their lexicon as they review their checklists at least 2ce a day.
It's okay for people to be "mad". Protect your space and don't let them in. Speak up and refuse to accept what you don't deserve or what is clearly not right.
Even introverts can boldly express dissatisfaction. You may not like confrontation but you sha know how to write and keep documentation. Oya, document your displeasure in writing. But don't let people walk all over you.
WHAT #NIGERIA CAN LEARN FROM POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY | I am a fan of Martin E.P Seligman. A champion of #PositivePsychology, he is a strong advocate for going beyond traditional psychiatry and psychotropic drugs for the treatment of mental or emotional maladies.
He believes mental health therapies should not only relieve suffering, but also help individuals to achieve well-being. They should be given the tools to flourish by embracing meaning, positive emotion, engagement, accomplishment and great relationships.
The Nigerian nation can learn from this. We are so behind the developmental curve, that we have not even scratched the surface of delivering citizens from misery. Helping them to achieve their dreams and enjoy fulfilling lives is still further down the road.