Thread by @YousXPB

*Thread* - The Selfish Secret

Copy the 'x' factor behind all my greatest wins

People will say I give so much with what I create

But I have rarely, if ever given or created anything to be given

After reverse engineering 10 years of wins & losses

This right here is the 'x factor' behind the effortless victories

When I had a clothing brand a few years back

There was a style I wanted but could not find

I decided to make it for myself

After I made it for myself and liked it I decided to put it on a store & sell it

It did fairly well right away

Everything I tweet is not giving anything

I am sharing what I made for myself

Even before & without Twitter I still write these things everyday for myself

Solving things, understanding my experiences, making observations

In selling marketing training

I don't make a training program to give to people

I make the program I need for myself
I need it because I actually use it

I use it then later I decide to share it or 'give it'

When I was 15 I made a video game server

I didn't make it for other people

I made what I wanted to play & couldn't find on any other server

I then shared what I had made for me and my friends to play, then hundreds of people joined & loved it

When I made a forum community which grew to 5000 members

I made what I wanted a community to have after myself being a member of many forums for years

Here is the point of this thread..

Making things you need for yourself is the best way to learn and develop a great product

Instead of giving something you think others want

You make something you KNOW you want for yourself & then share it

If you want it, use it, and like it - there are other people out there just like you

But it goes deeper than making products...

It's a way of life

In going to the gym, you go because YOU want it for yourself

It's you who will use/live in the more functional/healthier body

Doing things to impress others, the price to pay is never worth the reward you get

It takes A LOT of work to become successful, extremely fit, etc

In doing it for others you don't experience the rewards until the completed outcome

Which makes the process not worth it

A friend once said this about going on dates:

"I don't spend money on her I spend money with her"

It's not giving a experience, it's sharing a experience

The dynamic shifts from give & take competition to shared win/win collaboration

Give good content people want

to take validation/sales/followers

Would feel strange. Would feel like I need a return on investment for doing something i'd normally not be doing

But to share what I am already doing...

I'm not making, creating, or exerting much energy to 'do' something

I'm sharing what I already have, what I already did/am doing

This is the secret to giving, when it doesn't feel like giving then you don't feel 'spent'

Which means you can 'give' MUCH more than most

If I have to 'give' her an experience the dynamic becomes buyer seller

doing something i'd normally not do in order to get something in return

If I am sharing a experience with her, we are on the same team

Which means I don't need anything in return

In not needing anything you attract everything

If I make a marketing training for myself & use it to make myself a full time income

I genuinely don't need anyone to buy the training I share, I don't need an outcome from it

In not needing the outcome you effortlessly get the outcome

Because you already have the outcome

This is the difference between doing & being

Become the experience instead of chasing the experience

Thank you for reading

Cheers 🥂
- Yous