I've been tracking my emotions and a daily memory for 1,230 days in a row (over 3 years 🤯).
Here are 5 lessons learned:
1. The 1st year is the hardest
You're not yet seeing the benefits and you don't have enough data to make helpful life changes.
Once I started getting the 'On This Day' notifications, they acted as an automatic notification that also included why I was doing it. This is powerful
2. Having a daily reminder of where you were vs now is a huge motivator
On my lowest days, I would get a reminder of moments in the past where I was working hard to make it to exactly where I am now and that filled me with pride for how far I'd come.
3. Remembering increases empathy
Over the years, I've had a meteoric rise up the career ladder and have significantly upgraded my financial standing. Being reminded of worries and challenges of past years helped me continue to relate to others at different life stages
4. Relationship between stress and sickness
I can clearly see in my data that getting sick is usually preceded by consecutive stressful days. Maybe my immune system is compromised or my body is forcing me to chill, but it shows what I'm risking when I don't prioritize self care
5. Small things matter
I previously had no idea, but there are certain things that if I do or don't do, they define how my day is going to go. Daily memories also show that the big things were always built by a bunch of small decisions, choices, and actions.
It's not uncommon that I react to a memory notification with "I totally forgot about that" or "I can't believe that was 3 years ago".
I'm so happy that I started my daily tracking when I did, but I also wonder how much I'm missing from all of those previous years.
Yesterday was the best time to start, but today is the next best.
The best quotes from the @Oprah interview in 'How to Lead' by David M. Rubenstein:
"Your legacy is every life that you've touched. We like to think that these great, philanthropic moments are the ones that leave the impact... but it's really what you do every day."
"Every now and then, somebody will say, 'Do you miss the show?' I don't miss the show. What I miss is the people, the camaraderie. What I did every day was have my own aftershow with the audience. I would talk to the audience... 30-40 minutes after every show...
It was my personal focus group. It's the reason why we were number one for twenty-five years."
The best quotes from the @richardbranson interview in 'How to Lead' by David M. Rubenstein:
"I never go into a venture with the idea of making a profit. If you can create the best in its field, generally speaking you'll find that you'll pay the bills and you'll make a profit."
"My first $200 that I got to start my business - my mum found a necklace and went to the police station and handed it in, and nobody claimed it. She managed to sell it for $200. That was the critical money that helped me start."
"The only reason we would go into a new sector is if we felt it was being badly run by other people. The reason we went into trains was that the government were running trains. British Rail had dilapidated trains, miserable service...
The best quotes from the @BillGates interview in 'How to Lead' by David M. Rubenstein:
On comparing building Microsoft to running the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation:
"They have more in common than people might expect: the idea that you find an innovation, really stick to it, build a team behind it, have some setbacks and successes - that theory of change...
I'd say they're equally difficult. You always know you could be doing better, that you should learn more, be building the team and thinking about things in a better way. You see the positive results, but you always want to do even better."
The best quotes from the @JeffBezos interview in 'How to Lead' by David M. Rubenstein:
"[Tom Brokaw] was interviewing all of us, and he finally turned to me and he said, 'Mr. Bezos, can you even spell profit?' I said, 'Sure. P-r-o-p-h-e-t.' And he burst out laughing."
"With your loved ones, you bet on them. You're not betting on the idea. You are betting on the person."
My #1 tip in feeling more like an adult and being less overwhelmed is taking a second to consider the future version of yourself.
What can you do in this current moment to prepare you to be your best self in the near future?
Some examples:
What would your Monday self appreciate if you did this weekend? It could be as simple as resting up now so you're ready to go then.
If you typically feel negative after seeing someone, can you prep something that would make things a little better to have in reach soon after?
If you get allergies a certain time of year, can you create an allergy bag containing everything you'll need? So once it hits, you only have to worry about feeling better?
Take these techniques but apply them to what's important in your life.
Why extrinsic motivation might not be working for you:
"Carrots and Sticks: The Seven Deadly Flaws 1. They can extinguish intrinsic motivation 2. They can diminish performance 3. They can crush creativity 4. They can crowd out good behavior
5. They can encourage cheating, shortcuts, and unethical behavior 6. They can become addictive 7. They can foster short-term thinking"
"The opposite of autonomy is control. And since they sit at different poles of the behavioral compass, they point us toward different destinations. Control leads to compliance; autonomy leads to engagement."