hey so sometimes I don't feel like doing anything and I like to use an #ADHD hack I call the 'reverse pomodoro'. I'm sure I didn't invent this & many others have thought of it too but if you're feeling super unmotivated - read this!
so a regular pomodoro is where you go between work and rest periods, usually like 20-25 minutes on and 5 minutes rest. There are mixed reactions from the ADHD community - on the one hand, breaking hyperfocus helps you check in with yourself and not overextend yourself
or if the work you're doing is super painfully boring, you only have to go 20 mins at a time. On the other hand, if you are in hyperfocus it can be almost painful to stop what you're doing and you can lose your place, making jumping back in a challenge.
I'm not here to debate the virtue of the pomodoro technique but even if you hate it, hear me out on this reverse pomodoro thing:
Let's say you are just a total potato and you can't even imagine getting up to make a pot of coffee. Just full on veg mode. What do we know about WHY the ADHD brain works like this? low dopamine (among other neurotransmitters). Our brains are lacking something they need.
another way of looking at that is saying the brain is low on fun or stimulation. The ADHD brain needs fun like it needs food or air. We have to fill our 'fun' tanks before we can really expect anything of our brains. Here's where the pomodoro reversal comes in.
Pick something that you actually *feel* like doing. It can be video games, reading, watching a show, whatever. Give yourself a generous interval of time to do this - 20, 30, 40 minutes. Whatever. But set a timer and a deadline and when you hit that deadline, pause the fun thing.
Now set another time for just five minutes and get up and DO THE THING. When the time is up you get to go back to the fun thing. Sure, this will feel hard but I guarantee you will be rushing to get that dishwasher unloaded or take that shower if it means getting back to the fun.
You can use the natural breaks in the fun thing, like the end of a chapter, between episodes or levels of a game. Don't put pressure on yourself to work for more than 5 or max 10 minutes.
You might be tempted to beat yourself up for how long it's taking you to get your kitchen clean, answer emails or just get going for the day. But the point is, YOU'RE DOING IT. Let's be real; you were just gonna sit there doomscrolling for 3 hours anyway
but now you're vegging out for 3 hours with 30 minutes of productivity in there and that can be the difference between 'no momentum' and 'enough momentum to get off the couch and walk the dog'.
I use the reverse pomodoro method whenever I am in the executive functioning dumpster and it really helps me. So there you go!
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#ADHD 101; things you may or may not have known were ADHD things (and yes I know some of these things can be connected to other diagnoses!)
The well known:
- chronic lateness /poor time management
- chronic disorganization/ mess
- forgetfulness
The lesser known things:
- perfectionism
- inability to get started on things unless the "mood" is exactly right
- problems finishing anything
- piss poor self talk (always putting self down or giving yourself shit)
- black and white / all or nothing thinking
- a long "ramping up" period before you can do a thing where it looks like you're doing nothing but actually you're mentally gearing up
- emotional dysregulation; big emotions, being "too sensitive"
- rejection sensitivity
- trouble with relationships due to poor boundaries
hey you know how when you have #ADHD sometimes your thoughts are all swirly and you just keep chewing on the same thought over and over and you can't stop thinking about it and it's distracting you and sometimes even putting you in a really bad mood or making you irritable?
my friend, you are RUMINATING
let's talk about rumination
Rumination is different from normal, healthy thought. It actually is a part of ADHD and a byproduct of poor attention regulation because it's essentially hyperfocusing...on a thought.
hey #ADHD#NeurodiverseSquad. There's some hot button debates going on about the use of certain terms which already have clinically significant meaning, being used in different and new ways to describe our experiences. I'm going to weigh in. Bear with me.
There are two sides to the debate (well, three if you count people who don't care):
- Side 1: Terms that already have a scientific or clinical meaning shouldn't be co-opted to explain other experiences because it muddies the waters and discredits us vis a vis having our experiences taken seriously by medical professionals who are gonna side-eye us
So last week I really fell off the wagon, organizationally. I noticed about mid-week that I was going from hyperfocus to hyperfocus, my house was a mess, I kept forgetting to eat, I was staying up late and not getting enough sleep, I didnt feel like showering or brushing my teeth
All these things add to each other, of course. The less I sleep the less I can regulate my executive function, the more my focus and energy bounces around, and so on and so forth. I was forgetting to drink water, charge my phone, impulsively spending etc
I cant say exactly why or where it started and maybe it doesn't matter. What matters is that sometimes when you have #ADHD your executive function just goes off the rails sometimes. Some weeks are better and some weeks are worse. You cant stop the bad weeks, you cant be perfect
I'm always surprised that not everyone with #ADHD knows about RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria) and it's like, a real important part of having ADHD. Let's break it down!
while not officially in the DSM as part of having ADHD, RSD is widely known to impact many, if not all, ADHDers. It's the perception that one is being criticized or rejected as a result of neutral stimuli.
so for example, you ask me how I'm doing today, I reply, "fine" with a neutral/not smiling face - and your brain immediately goes to "oh God, is she mad at me? She must be mad at me. Did I do something wrong? Did I say something rude the last time we hung out?"