I can’t stress enough how important therapy is. I’m at a barber shop now listening to the radio and the guy being spoken of has incredible childhood trauma from sexual abuse and 💔💔💔

The damage he’s now causing his marriage through cheating is heartbreaking to hear.

Guys!
Men don’t talk because of the rejection and neglect they face in society.

It’s harder to trust anyone because the large majority of times a man opens up, his pain becomes a bullet used against him.

Men know this. That’s why they numb & seek escapes and never show emotions.
It’s unsafe. It feels unsafe to trust and the safety net people say they’ll give you feels like an illusion.

Men minimise traumatising events in their lives by joking about them because the misery around them is too heavy.

That’s why vulnerability sounds like a scam & ploy
@Radio2000ZA is shattering my heart right now you guys. 😭😭😭😭

Yho. Black men have been broken man. To relate to these men’s sexual abuse experiences is gut wrenching and I just wanna jump in and help. I know this pain. I know this pain too well.

Fok. 💔💔💔

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