Thread by @HakeemAndrsn

You are going to,

FALL OUT OF LOVE WITH YOUR WIFE/WOMAN,

And I encourage it. Hear me out

(a thread)

It’s natural to fall out of love with your partner.

It really is and, when you’ve been with them for a while you won’t know a deeper truth than this and it’s perfectly okay to. It’s natural.

Go ahead too but, only do it because your relationship deserves a reboot of your former self and an updated version of “Husband-You” bro.

But what’s unnatural is to give up just because one phase has ended and the next one puzzles you.

It’s supposed to.

You don’t know what you don’t know and the future is always a question mark to us.

What makes it different is, what you choose to make of it in your grand return.

How you choose her to fall back in love with.

How you choose to keep a keeper kept and stay to win.

What’s unnatural is running from the place you belong and are fully known in to spaces you’re only a brand new thrill.

Just writing this gave my bones a chill.

Astaghfirullah.

What’s beautiful is staying where you beautifully planted love in vows, to nurture what’s growing through its wilt stages, with a firm understanding that seasons come and go and that good love grows where constant effort flows.

That tending to the sow you will continuously reap from is part of the enjoyment of your partner.

That you should prune through the difficult times and seek to understand the change that’s happened.

That you will be in momentary discomfort and that like everything else, discomfort passes if you stay to figure out how you got there and what the lessons in there are all about and how you can grow from there and where too, too.

What’s beautiful is not forgetting to serve, to love and to show up.

To express where you’re weak and what you’d like for both of you to improve.

To ask for help where you’re unable to carry the union and to divulge your plans or lack thereof.

To completely abhor going on auto pilot.

To not go on chill mode.

To never ever stop pursuing her and making her feel like your attention is hers and on her.

We chill too much.

Don’t chill that much.

To dance with her. To kiss her.

To show her more affection and innumerate her qualities out loud to her beyond just telling her she’s beautiful.

To ask her to do the same for you if that’s where you draw inspiration to improve from.

You don’t forget these and you don’t stop doing and improving on them because these are what bring you home.

What’s beautiful is staying home and not let hardship convince you, you can do better out there when what’s out there will become of itself the exact same challenges you face here and now.

That sometimes it’s not your partner but what you feel inside due to external stressors that convince you you’re lesser.

To a point where you forget your prayers and neglect your truth and go the opposite direction of growing softer.

You will fall out of love with your partner and going back to her is a strong man’s decision in that, now, you know to keep your treasure treasured and go you back to love more informed, kinder, tender, in submission, ready and willing to do more than you’ve ever, to keep her.

Even her crust is worth your lust but, is she worth more from you for you to go home with light in your heart because you didn’t forget she’s your keys to Jannah?

Choose her bro. Choose her again. And again. And again.

Love is hard work. Be smart with God-worth!

— h.a-l

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