Thread by @HakeemAndrsn

Ask Your Lover These Asap.

A Thread*

(you can answer them just for fun too)

1. Do you think it’s ok to keep noticing another woman/man after you are in a committed relationship?

Does this change when you are married?

2. What is the first thing that you notice when you look at a man/woman?

3. If I don’t say so, how do you know that I want to make love?

4. Are you friends with any of your exes?

5. Do you believe it’s possible to maintain platonic friendships with members of the opposite sex?

6. How do you honestly feel about monogamy?

7. What’s your definition of cheating?

8. How often do you like to see and/or speak to your parents, siblings, and other family members?

9. Have you ever lost someone or something you truly loved?

10. What’s your ideal climate for establishing a permanent home?

11. What’s your ideal type of vacation?

12. Which household chores do you most like to do?

13. What percentage of your income are you comfortable spending versus saving?

14. Do you have any outstanding debts?

15. Do you have any savings?

16. At what age do you want to retire, ideally, and where do you imagine yourself at that stage in life?

17. How often do you believe it is normal to want sex?

18. Do you masturbate?

19. How do you feel if I come into the bathroom when you are using the facilities?

20. When was the last time you took a shower together? Are you comfortable doing this often?

21. Describe your parents marriage. What was the best part and the worst part in your opinion?

22. Who was the first person who died in your life and how did you feel?

23. What animals do you like and not like?

24. Describe your perfect dream date.

25. Can you tell me what makes up your belief systems?

26. Who is the person you admire most and why?

27. What is the one thing that would be a relationship breaker for you?

28. How important do you think monogamy is to a relationship?

29. Who do you believe is the dominant one in a relationship and why?

30. What is the best advice you’ve ever gotten?

31. Who’s the person you respect most in life, and why?

32. Who do you confide in more than anyone else?

33. Can you actually keep a secret, or is it tough for you to keep your mouth shut?

34. Do you want to raise your hypothetical children religiously?

35. Would you ever stay home to parent full-time?

36. Do you expect your partner to parent full-time?

37. How do you feel about outsourcing certain responsibilities like childcare and cleaning?

38. How do you feel about having children?

39. Describe your philosophy on personal debt.

40. What is the one thing that I do that makes you crazy?

41. If you were really in trouble, who would you go to for advice?

42. Who do you feel responsible for in your life?

43. Do you have sexual dreams? Tell me about some of them.

44. What is the most important thing that money can do for you?

45. Who had control of the money when you were growing up?

46. How did you learn what it meant to be a man/woman?

47. Do you believe in God?

48. If your friend was cheating on their spouse, do you think you should tell their partner?

49. If your friend was cheating on their spouse, would you tell your spouse about it?

50. What were you thinking about right before you kissed me for the first time?

It’s good to ask questions in a relationship.

Whether they are goofy, what if’s circumstances or extremely serious questions about what they perceive as infidelity, gender roles in a home and romantic gestures.

I have more if you guys would like me to add? Lemme know...

51. After I had asked you out for the first time, did you consider saying no?

52. Was there anything that you were worried about the first time we were about to become naked?

53. Would you be willing to relocate for either of our jobs?

54. Would you prefer to run your own business or to work for someone else?

55. If you could design your own schedule, would you work more during the morning or at night?

56. How many hours of sleep would you say you need to function at 100 percent?

57. Are you a pet person? If so, what kind of pet do you see yourself owning?

58. Do you have any unfulfilled sexual desires or fantasies?

59. If you won the lottery tomorrow, how would you lead your life moving forward?

60. What’s your earliest fond memory?

61. What’s the most terrifying thing that’s ever happened to you?

62. What’s your greatest fear?

63. What was the first thing that attracted you about me?

64. Do you think that physical attributes are more important to maintaining a successful relationship or do you think that friendship maintains a relationship?

65. When you look at a woman/man, what is the first thing you notice?

66. Describe the way I smell.

67. How do you feel about group vacations with other couples?

68. At what age do you envision yourself buying a house or owning real estate?

69. What keeps you going day to day and how can I add positively towards that?

70. What are you beliefs about abortion?

71. How important do you believe organized religion is in a couples relationship?

72. Tell me when you first knew you loved me?

73. How do you handle anger? Has it ever caused a problem in your life?

74. What do you consider your best and worst qualities?

75. Have you ever had your heart broken?

76. What do you value more: careful planning or the freedom to be spontaneous?

77. Do you believe in reincarnation, or an afterlife?

78. How would you react if we had trouble getting pregnant?

79. How do you feel about adoption?

80. How many kids do you want (if any)?

81. What soothes you the most on the back of bad news or a tough day?

82. In what circumstances do you think it’s okay to fib?

83. Are you the type to bottle things up, overshare, or something in between?

84. What are you most passionate about in life?

85. Would you characterize yourself as someone who lives to work, works to live, or neither?

86. How would you respond if one of us was offered a job that required a lot of traveling?

87. Would you consider moving to a different country together if work called for it?

88. How do you handle conflict and confrontation?

89. Do you know about love languages? What are your primaries?

Do you know your love style? Which works better for you?

90. Are we dating or in a relationship?

If we are dating, how do you feel about going on dates with other people?

If we are in a relationship, are we mutually exclusive or are we in an open relationship?

If it's an open relationship, are we going to introduce others to ours?

91. Are you okay with us moving in together?

92. How do you feel about open a mutual savings account/s to handle our relationship’s financial responsibilities?

93. Do you want to rent or buy?

Do you want to buy to live in the house or buy to lease the property out?

Do you want to work a nine-five or run your own company and are you efficient in handling the responsibilities of being an entrepreneur or efficient CEO?

94. Do you trust me with your future, life & heart?

95. Are you confident in my responsibilities of you and us?

Are you confident you can count on me to show up for you and for us?

How would you like me to earn your trust and confidence if and when I drop the ball?

96. What forms of intimacy would you like to enjoy more in our relationship?

97. Do you feel respected, considered, acknowledged, cared for and valued by me?

98. How important is sex to you between us?

How important is climaxing and reaching an orgasm when we’re making love?

Do you feel comfortable with us being intimate?

what would make our sex life spicier & more exciting for you?

Where are you most comfortable having sex?

100. Are you in this relationship to grow and build or is it a for now thing with us?