Thread by @sheilagregoire

Here’s an example of man pushing back against my thread. I’d like to respond to some of his points:

Re 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 and why it should not be used to tell women they need to have sex on demand:

https://twitter.com/CoreyTownsley1/status/1361056682579746818

Biblically, sex is INTIMATE, MUTUAL, and PLEASURABLE. The whole point of 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 is mutuality. And sex is about intimacy; God describes His relationship with us in sexual terms.

Therefore, any interpretation of 1 Corinthians 7 that says to women, “You need to allow your husband to use your body on demand, no matter what you are feeling,” is completely unscriptural and taking that out of context to weaponize it.

RE: Every Man’s Battle telling men NOT to objectify women. Actually, no. EMB calls women “METHADONE” for their husbands’ sex addictions. That’s objectification right there.

Also, the EMB response to lust is for men to take their sexual energy and transfer it to their wives. They say, "This newfound hunger will shock her. She has been accustomed to providing you five bowls a week, primarily through physical foreplay and sexual intercourse."

"Things were at equilibrium. Suddenly you need an extra five bowls from her. For no apparent reason, you come calling for intercourse twice as often.” It is still lust even if it for your wife. Using your wife is still using her. Lust is not “legal” simply in marriage .

They never, ever, in the whole book, describe women in any terms other than physical. I draw your attention to the opening description, with her “ample bosom” and “glistening flesh” that he was feasting on.

And “bouncing your eyes” to avoid women is STILL seeing women as only sexual objects. Jesus doesn’t avoid looking at women. He simply chooses to truly see them.

tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/03/bounci…

Finally, our “You’re Not Methadone” podcast that goes into much of this:

tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2021/02/the-yo…

And BTW—I’m happy to provide more terrible quotes from EMB, including normalizing masturbating in parking lots or portraying a youth leader who rapes a 15-year-old in a sympathetic light. I have a whole spreadsheet. But I’ll leave it here. Yes, EMB objectifies women.

As for men not having to be taught to lust—actually, our surveys of men showed that the more you believe the every man’s battle message, the more you use porn and have trouble with lust. This normalizes and excuses it.