Spent nearly an hour being interviewed about why radfems never supported the term ‘womxn’ in the first place, and how blatantly sexist and racist it was, and then it got pulled completely lmfao
Anything to pin it on the bad feminists lol
Both me and Jaimi were invited to projects and organisations who used the term ‘womxn’ and when we asked what it meant, we were both told last year that it’s ‘to include transwomen and Black women’
Ya what?
Black women? Didn’t they just come under ‘woman’ in the first place?
I rejected every single piece of work that referred to ‘womxn’ last year for this reason.
Amazing how this is now being pinned on women like me who challenged it from day 1.
If language changes, and groups who originally used it now realise that it’s bollocks, then fair enough, just say so. Just say ‘yeah, we used it and now we’ve realised that it’s inappropriate & harmful so we don’t want to use it anymore’
What’s the deal with denying it?
Soooooooooooo bored of this playground bullshit now
A thread on consenting to sex & what we mean by enthusiastic consent.
Consenting to sex is a very personal choice every time.
Consent does not extend past the one act you agreed to, which means someone cannot assume that because you said to this, you also mean yes to that.
Consent is actually based on three concepts:
You are informed of what it is you are consenting to
You are free to make that choice to consent
You are willing to make that choice to consent
So if you are being emotionally coerced or expected or feel obliged, it’s not free
For example, if you think ‘I don’t wanna do this but feel like I should’ then that’s not consent - and certainly not enthusiastic consent. You should really want to do it, and really want to engage. Your partner shouldn’t want sex with you if you don’t really want to
Single sex spaces are essential to trauma informed approaches and services - this isn’t through hatred, bigotry or exclusion. We have to retain the right to support safe spaces when oppressed and abused groups need them, without others arguing that they are offensive or harmful.
The demonisation of sexual and domestic violence services as groups of hate filled women is terrifying. There would be no rape centres or DV services without women who tirelessly built these safe spaces for women and girls subjected to male violence.
Women and girls have needed safe spaces away from male violence for centuries. We achieved that of our own accord in the 60s thanks to feminists before us. They weren’t developed out of hatred for others, but out of need to protect and give them single sex spaces.
It’s frightening slash amazing to watch what topics men can write and speak on, whilst people defend their right to free speech versus which topics women can’t write and speak on whilst people call for them to be killed, sacked, silenced and abused.
Misogyny is alive and well.
Male academics and theorists: Black people have smaller brains. Women need their wombs ripping out. People with disabilities should be locked up. Kill female foetuses. Women bring rape on themselves
World: wow that’s so insightful and thought provoking, we should totally listen
Female academics and theorists: we need to have clear discussions about topics which are controversial, and women need to be able to talk freely and openly about theories and policies without fear of violence or death
World: shut the fuck up you ugly stupid c*nt k1ll yourself
This is a reminder to all the women who told their families that they were raped or abused but they didn’t believe you:
Their disbelief is an issue which sits within them, not you. Their refusal to believe you isn’t about your own credibility or reality. It’s their denial.
You don’t have to carry their denial. You don’t have to prove to them that you’re telling the truth.
Their denial says more about them, than you.
They are protecting themselves instead of protecting you. They would rather frame you as lying than acknowledge your truth.
These are not your errors, faults or values.
It’s normal to feel completely betrayed by them. Often, we think our families and parents will be the ones to believe us and be there - and it hurts even more when they are the ones who blame or deny it ever happened.
White politicians referring to white CSE victims as ‘our girls’ is a whole heap of racism, misogyny and sexualisation of girls which implies that only white men can rape and abuse them, and that they don’t care about the rape and abuse of Black and minority ethnic girls at all.
The systemic racism in CSE continues, as it always has done. Lots of people are invested in pretending that the majority of perps are South Asian, despite the majority of perps (87%) being White British.
But this rhetoric about owning the girls.... ‘they raped ‘our girls’ is 🤢
It’s literally the exact same mantra and slogan as EDL. All of their banners and arguments were ‘Muslims are raping our white girls’
What?
Since when did those pricks care about child abuse at all?
Well, they didn’t, until they decided they owned all white girls.
Men don’t rape or abuse women because they need more education, counselling or advice.
They do it because they want to, because they can, because they know that society doesn’t believe women & because the chances of prosecution are less than 1%
No sex offender turns around after 6 sessions or an educational video and says, ‘oh my god, you’re right, I’m an abusive, violent rapist and need to change my own behaviour, and stop targeting women and girls and then blaming it on them.’
It’s time to stop saying things like:
‘If they just knew more about consent/healthy relationships/abuse/misogyny - then they wouldn’t behave like this’
What makes you think that they don’t understand consent?
They do, that’s WHY they rape women who don’t want it