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Dr. Jessica Taylor

@DrJessTaylor

9 Mar

As a psychologist, as someone who specialises in trauma, as someone who can pick out what people are not saying, and as someone who can see abusive family dynamics - everything playing out around Meghan is deliberate, & designed to destroy her because she is a whistleblower.

So many women will relate to this:

She is the whistleblower in her family
She is the whistleblower in his family

She points out when something is wrong, oppressive, abusive or harmful - and then she is attacked for it, vilified and positioned as the abuser

She’s an authentic speaker surrounded by power hungry narcissists.

This is exactly what happens to thousands of women when they try to speak out and then get away from their abusive families.

Notice the language ‘cut off’. This is commonly used when victims walk away.

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Dr. Jessica Taylor

@DrJessTaylor

6 Mar

A thread on consenting to sex & what we mean by enthusiastic consent.

Consenting to sex is a very personal choice every time.

Consent does not extend past the one act you agreed to, which means someone cannot assume that because you said to this, you also mean yes to that.

Consent is actually based on three concepts:

You are informed of what it is you are consenting to
You are free to make that choice to consent
You are willing to make that choice to consent

So if you are being emotionally coerced or expected or feel obliged, it’s not free

For example, if you think ‘I don’t wanna do this but feel like I should’ then that’s not consent - and certainly not enthusiastic consent. You should really want to do it, and really want to engage. Your partner shouldn’t want sex with you if you don’t really want to

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Dr. Jessica Taylor

@DrJessTaylor

6 Mar

Spent nearly an hour being interviewed about why radfems never supported the term ‘womxn’ in the first place, and how blatantly sexist and racist it was, and then it got pulled completely lmfao

Anything to pin it on the bad feminists lol

Both me and Jaimi were invited to projects and organisations who used the term ‘womxn’ and when we asked what it meant, we were both told last year that it’s ‘to include transwomen and Black women’

Ya what?

Black women? Didn’t they just come under ‘woman’ in the first place?

I rejected every single piece of work that referred to ‘womxn’ last year for this reason.

Amazing how this is now being pinned on women like me who challenged it from day 1.

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Dr. Jessica Taylor

@DrJessTaylor

10 Feb

Single sex spaces are essential to trauma informed approaches and services - this isn’t through hatred, bigotry or exclusion. We have to retain the right to support safe spaces when oppressed and abused groups need them, without others arguing that they are offensive or harmful.

The demonisation of sexual and domestic violence services as groups of hate filled women is terrifying. There would be no rape centres or DV services without women who tirelessly built these safe spaces for women and girls subjected to male violence.

Women and girls have needed safe spaces away from male violence for centuries. We achieved that of our own accord in the 60s thanks to feminists before us. They weren’t developed out of hatred for others, but out of need to protect and give them single sex spaces.

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Dr. Jessica Taylor

@DrJessTaylor

9 Feb

It’s frightening slash amazing to watch what topics men can write and speak on, whilst people defend their right to free speech versus which topics women can’t write and speak on whilst people call for them to be killed, sacked, silenced and abused.

Misogyny is alive and well.

Male academics and theorists: Black people have smaller brains. Women need their wombs ripping out. People with disabilities should be locked up. Kill female foetuses. Women bring rape on themselves

World: wow that’s so insightful and thought provoking, we should totally listen

Female academics and theorists: we need to have clear discussions about topics which are controversial, and women need to be able to talk freely and openly about theories and policies without fear of violence or death

World: shut the fuck up you ugly stupid c*nt k1ll yourself

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Dr. Jessica Taylor

@DrJessTaylor

7 Feb

This is a reminder to all the women who told their families that they were raped or abused but they didn’t believe you:

Their disbelief is an issue which sits within them, not you. Their refusal to believe you isn’t about your own credibility or reality. It’s their denial.

You don’t have to carry their denial. You don’t have to prove to them that you’re telling the truth.

Their denial says more about them, than you.

They are protecting themselves instead of protecting you. They would rather frame you as lying than acknowledge your truth.

These are not your errors, faults or values.

It’s normal to feel completely betrayed by them. Often, we think our families and parents will be the ones to believe us and be there - and it hurts even more when they are the ones who blame or deny it ever happened.

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