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31 Mar, 12 tweets, 4 min read
A woman rejected a marriage proposal because she wasn't financially ready and the responses aren't funny.

I also share her sentiments and I've received "feminists are deceiving you people".

Well, I'm not feminist and I've never subscribed to feminism.

Perspective matters when
... people share such sentiments. Everything doesn't revolve around feminists and feminism.

Yes, I have a fear of walking into marriage with nothing, in fact goinh into relationship if I can't take care of myself first.

I may be a Patriarchy Princess but I enjoy being at the
... giving than receiving end. (I won't reject if you give me😉)

Back to perspective; feminism isn't the reason why I have this fear.
Just like a lot of people who lost their mom at a very young age, I lost mine when I was 16 to stroke and it was a huge blow to us. (May her soul
...rest in peace)
Her illness and passing away crippled our family emotionally and financially. (We wouldn't mind losing everything as long as she survives), she was just 51y/o. Guys, she was beautiful. I took after my dad's ugly ass.😁

The challenges started, my only (elder)
...sister got married not long after, so it was just my brothers, dad and I.

And I automatically became a mother and my father's wife,😁 running of the home was on me and I know what it means to be in that helpless position where you can't make much difference financially.
I had to manage every penny given to me and the painful part is going to my dad to tell him that the money was not enough. He knew the money was not enough and I refused to be the devil's advocate to remind him of it, remind him to hustle harder (that's a man who's mourning his
...wife)

But thank God, things changed a few years later.

That helpless feeling is my fear; not being able to step up when my husband and kids need it, when hubby's card got declined and I can't provide mine; it's wrong nau.

Even though I have the intention of being a
...house wife and take care of my family by myself, I will still have streams of income that will require me working from the dining table.
This is 2021, there are millionaire housewives.😉

So, my fear has nothing to do with marrying wrong because my God is very much awake.
Lots of you from broken homes, I empathize with you but you need to be positive and stop expecting the worst always.

Feminism has also painted marriage so badly that y'all see every woman as a victim or a potential victim.
That's bad.

Marriage is beautiful!
Stay positive!
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Whenever you talk about a woman submitting to her husband, feminists will shout slavery, misogyny, dismantle patriarchy and throw insults around.

The fact is, we all are guilty of demanding submission from people directly or indirectly as long as we are responsible for them.
And that's perfectly fine and normal. Responsibility comes with authority.

Our parents are responsible for us and they shoulder that responsibility, reason why it hurts them badly when we rebel against them.

Same thing goes to older siblings who sacrifice a lot to take care of
...their younger siblings.

Some people decline executive positions in some organizations where they don't gain anything because of the responsibilities and when they do take such positions, submission from the floor members ought to be automatic even though they have a say.
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MEN AND WOMEN ARE UNIQUE IN THEIR OWN WAYS.

Men and women are different and have a uniqueness that's peculiar to them respectively.

Women's major contribution to the society is the birthing and raising of great men and women, which is the greatest calling ever.
This earns them respect, honor and adoration. This is the reason why they are celebrated 10 times in a year.

Men's major contribution to the society is provision, protection and nation building. Every beautiful and luxurious life we enjoy today is their doings.

Since time
... immemorial, men have done unfathomable job to bring us to where we are today, yet women are celebrated more.

This brings me to the reason of this thread.

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"Indoctrination is the reason why a girl child wears pink and play with dolls, while the boy child plays with truck because we were at blank state at birth"

Feminists bring up this indoctrination when we question why women don't do or have interest in certain things.
Let's talk about this indoctrination. shall we?

When it comes to why you don't have interest in politics or other disciplines, you cry indoctrination;

- Your parents are core Catholics, you were born and raised in it but today you're a member of Christ Embassy and your sister
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The indoctrination must be really weak for you to be able to change church.

- From the moment you had your first menstrual period, your mom told you that once a man touches you, you will get pregnant, the church teaches you abstinence till
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25 Mar
"Dismantle the Patriarchy"

Yet,

- You expect a man to create a safe basket for his wife in case he dies suddenly.

Spoiler alert: That's patriarchy.

- During a divorce, a man should share everything he laboured for 50/50 with a woman whether she contributed to his growth or
..not.

- If the wife is doing pretty good, you encourage her to have a secret account, build a secret house and other establishment because in patriarchal setting, a wife's money belongs to her while the husband's money belongs to both of them.

You are an enabler of patriarchy.
- You are doing good, possibly a millionaire, yet you want to marry a man richer than you, a man who's above your league.

You call it having standards but that's patriachal. Naturally, men marry down while women marry up because women are hypergamous in nature.

For someone who
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22 Mar
Patriarchy does not influence women's choice of career.

Men and women are different, they behave differently, hence they desire and have interest in different things.

For instance, a couple get engaged.

Woman: I said yes to my best friend.
Man: (has gone about his business)
On birthdays,

Woman: happy birthday to my husband, the love of... She writes epistle.

Man: happy to my love, the mother of my children. (Case closed).

The same thing on anniversaries.

Recently, women now celebrate divorce on social media and when you question such behavior,
...you will be labeled a misogynist who's trying to police women and their happiness.

Whereas the man in question may never mention anything about his divorce.

This is a behavioral differences between men and women. This goes a long way to determine what they are interested in.
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Many men would have been at a higher level if not for shouldering family responsibilities.

But why should they complain when they willingly started family right? Also complaining and whining are women's job.

"Women are the real VIP for their decisions"

Men are what?
Do you know how many investment plans most men have but couldn't achieve?

Many men don't receive love from their children because their jobs required them to be absent?

Imagine hustling under sun and rain to take care of your children only for them to have little or no love
...and respect for you.

Many men sacrificed the desire to be loved and respected in order to provide for his family. What sacrifice is greater than that?

Making sacrifices for people that may never recognize you as a brick talk more of a pillar of their lives.
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