Whenever you talk about a woman submitting to her husband, feminists will shout slavery, misogyny, dismantle patriarchy and throw insults around.
The fact is, we all are guilty of demanding submission from people directly or indirectly as long as we are responsible for them.
And that's perfectly fine and normal. Responsibility comes with authority.
Our parents are responsible for us and they shoulder that responsibility, reason why it hurts them badly when we rebel against them.
Same thing goes to older siblings who sacrifice a lot to take care of
...their younger siblings.
Some people decline executive positions in some organizations where they don't gain anything because of the responsibilities and when they do take such positions, submission from the floor members ought to be automatic even though they have a say.
On Twitter here, we've seen people post tweet of someone they have helped at some point in time because of some disagreement.
They expect submission from that person albeit unhealthy.
It's a natural phenomenon to have authority over the person you're responsible for.
Responsibility without authority is slavery and nobody wants to be in that position.
If these scenarios are normal, why should a woman's submission to her husband be questioned?
Bearing his name alone gives you an added privileges.
Walk into any office with your single female
... Friends, you are most likely going to be attended to first with utmost respect as well.
His name gives you an added protection, people won't harrass you anyhow.
Last week, I went to the market, Eke Awka precisely and a woman was insulting a man.
This man is above 6ft,
...and he's hefty. This man will bench press her without breaking a sweat. Firstly, she was at fault, instead of apologizing she was claiming right. Some people were even scolding her.
Do you know what the man told her?
He said and I quote "if you were single, I will use my
...belt and give you the flogging of your life. Let me go and meet your husband"
Why is it wrong for a woman to submit to the man who's;
- Her provider?
- Her protector?
- Responsible for her?
- Held accountable for every of her actions?
So many men are out there quenching
...the fire their wives set in market places, in church, their children's school and other organizations they are members of. Including the fire these women set in their various families, the men are held accountable for such bad behaviors.
Despite all that, you still believe
...that woman shouldn't submit to her husband, obey him, follow his guidance and instructions?
You don't want to be held accountable and the person who's ready to take it up, you don't want to make it easier for him. What are you?
Please, throw away every negative notion you
... have about submission because it's a part of our daily lives and marriage shouldn't be exempted.
What we should be talking about is having men who will not abuse the authority and try to subdue their wife at every given opportunity.
Women should pray to marry alpha males
...who command submission with their actions not weak men who become tyrants at the slightest thirst of power.
Power intoxicates but it only intoxicates weak men.
Men and women are different and have a uniqueness that's peculiar to them respectively.
Women's major contribution to the society is the birthing and raising of great men and women, which is the greatest calling ever.
This earns them respect, honor and adoration. This is the reason why they are celebrated 10 times in a year.
Men's major contribution to the society is provision, protection and nation building. Every beautiful and luxurious life we enjoy today is their doings.
Since time
... immemorial, men have done unfathomable job to bring us to where we are today, yet women are celebrated more.
This brings me to the reason of this thread.
Women are on the verge of losing their uniqueness and feminists are making sure of that through their definition of
A woman rejected a marriage proposal because she wasn't financially ready and the responses aren't funny.
I also share her sentiments and I've received "feminists are deceiving you people".
Well, I'm not feminist and I've never subscribed to feminism.
Perspective matters when
... people share such sentiments. Everything doesn't revolve around feminists and feminism.
Yes, I have a fear of walking into marriage with nothing, in fact goinh into relationship if I can't take care of myself first.
I may be a Patriarchy Princess but I enjoy being at the
... giving than receiving end. (I won't reject if you give me😉)
Back to perspective; feminism isn't the reason why I have this fear.
Just like a lot of people who lost their mom at a very young age, I lost mine when I was 16 to stroke and it was a huge blow to us. (May her soul
"Indoctrination is the reason why a girl child wears pink and play with dolls, while the boy child plays with truck because we were at blank state at birth"
Feminists bring up this indoctrination when we question why women don't do or have interest in certain things.
Let's talk about this indoctrination. shall we?
When it comes to why you don't have interest in politics or other disciplines, you cry indoctrination;
- Your parents are core Catholics, you were born and raised in it but today you're a member of Christ Embassy and your sister
..is a member of Winners chapel.
The indoctrination must be really weak for you to be able to change church.
- From the moment you had your first menstrual period, your mom told you that once a man touches you, you will get pregnant, the church teaches you abstinence till
- You expect a man to create a safe basket for his wife in case he dies suddenly.
Spoiler alert: That's patriarchy.
- During a divorce, a man should share everything he laboured for 50/50 with a woman whether she contributed to his growth or
..not.
- If the wife is doing pretty good, you encourage her to have a secret account, build a secret house and other establishment because in patriarchal setting, a wife's money belongs to her while the husband's money belongs to both of them.
You are an enabler of patriarchy.
- You are doing good, possibly a millionaire, yet you want to marry a man richer than you, a man who's above your league.
You call it having standards but that's patriachal. Naturally, men marry down while women marry up because women are hypergamous in nature.