Family violence & sexual assault is Traumatic. There is overwhelming evidence of long term social & health impacts. We are increasingly aware of the huge no’ s of ppl living in our community with the scars of abuse. It remains unbelievable to me though that there is no
publicly funded service that deals specifically wt the mental & physical impacts of abuse in one safe venue with trauma informed staff. It’s been an honour to work wt @sally_stevensxn@wtrcillawarra & an amazing team inc @trish_acullen@mike_salter to try & make this vision
a reality..we are now one step closer now with the ‘Federal Inquiry into Family, Domestic and Sexual Violence’ released today with Recommendation 77 supporting the Trauma Recovery Centre! This is so exciting & I hope there is follow through with this recommendation. #PTSD
1/ Empathy is not an intellectual or planned response.
Empathy is an emotion..a recognition of pain in another person that comes from feeling that pain within yourself.
It involves certain biological pathways incl. mirror neurons.
You can teach someone to intellectually
2/ recognise signs of emotion e.g crying = sadness, trembling =fear :that may result in ‘sympathy’ but not necessarily empathy. Empathy training is teaching people to ACT empathic- not BE empathic. Just like a course won’t ‘teach’ a depressed person to ‘be’ happy. @victorklineTNL
3/ if we are ever going to have a government that acts & responds with empathy- we need to elect people with those traits. Just like if we want intelligent people in govt - there must be a demonstration that those traits exist in the person PRIOR to electing them. This may appear
“..your responses have been at best inadequate, & at worst, served to compound the trauma of so very many people.
You have not listened, you have not shown respect, you have not acted to protect anyone other than yourself in pursuit of your own political self-interest ..”
“If you cannot judge for yourself whether he is a fit and proper person to serve, then ask someone better qualified and less personally conflicted to do so. A reshuffle simply isn’t enough.”
55,300 children live out of home because their homes are too unsafe
Child Protection Services are looking after 159, 000 at-risk children
32, 000 children had claims of abuse substantiated
6,200 hospitalisations due to family violence
2/ 288 children hospitalised due to family violence
In ONE year in Australia
The police record 25,000 sexual assaults
3/ In ONE year in Australia
The number of Domestic violence assault victims were
18, 800 in WA
4500 in NT
7100 in SA
28,800 in NSW
1000 in ACT
1400 in Tasmania
There were 11,300 charges of fam violence offences in QLD
In one year @Vicpol recorded 78k fam violence incidents
Thread: We need to address the myths surrounding women in the family law court. The myth that women Make Up abuse to obtain “strategic advantage” in court & that kids tell health care workers they were abused bc their mother is “coaching them” firstly- @MattsJane@AbigailBoydMLC
2/ We cannot tell women they need to leave their violent homes but then accuse them of lying the moment they try. We understand women cannot leave without the family law court. You cannot simply pick up & leave without court orders @Drhutch2011@BethanyinCBR@kjoh7876
1/ The idea of some men in this thread that they could “tell” if a mate was an abuser is not just false but also dangerous. These are the same kind of men who provide ‘character references’ in court for abusers,saying what a ‘good guy’ he is. Most abusers are very charming,...
2/ ..& frequently successful & funny. They will often tell you how ‘she’ is bit ‘crazy’ & ‘jealous’
Men need to remember part of the abuse is to convince everyone around her that he’s the prize, the patient one ..& he generously ‘tolerates’ her. If his friends love him.. @davtw2
...& if he isolates her friends & family..he can then completely jail her from the community...without any physical jail cell .
No one should believe they are above being manipulated by an abuser- they can convince lawyers, magistrates & health professionals with ease @yabbtopia